So, set a goal to try one new position each month over the next year. That's only 12 different positions -- and that sounds totally doable!
For the best chances of making this happen, I recommend looking at Kinkly's Sex Position database to find a few sex positions that satiate your appetite -- then save or print them out. Next time you think you have the energy to try a new position, simply open your phone or flip through pages to see what appeals to you that day!
Trying new positions can also make it easier to incorporate sex toys into your playtime. Usually masturbate on your back? Sit on your knees, and suddenly you can experiment with a bit of solo anal play with help from a handy-dandy butt plug, like this Hott Love Extreme Five-Inch Vibrating Butt Plug from Spencer's.
Free Play Vibrating Butt Plug 5 Inch - Hott Love Extreme. Available exclusively at Spencer's. (And if you really need a reason to try this one, think about how useful it would be to be accustomed to receiving pleasure in new positions. It'll certainly make it easier to enjoy yourself in odd positions in the future!)
6. Wear Sexy Clothes for No Reason
Most of us wait to pull out our "sexy" clothes until there's a reason. It might be date night or just a 10-minute excursion to take a sexy selfie for someone you're chatting with.
But why let all of that energy go to waste? It's hard to feel like a sexual being when you're running around in five-year-old underwear. Even the elastic has abandoned that underwear -- much less your sex drive!
Instead, wear your sexy clothes for no reason. Dance around the house in them. Wear them to work. Get some groceries. Lay on the couch like a potato while you watch TV. Sext in them. Whatever you want!
And if you have the budget for it, consider buying a few pieces that make you feel confident but don't necessarily break the bank. This can help you feel more comfortable wearing things daily without the fear of destroying them.
Remember: This is all about whatever clothing makes you feel sexy and confident. Is that lingerie? Cool, do that. Do you feel like hot shit wearing your khakis and polo? Have at it -- wear it to the grocery store. There are no hard and fast rules on "feeling confident." Whatever brings it out for you is what we're going for.
You don't have to toss out that ratty old underwear, but give your brain a change sometimes to revitalize some of your self-esteem -- and some of that erotic energy!
7. Keep the Bedroom Clutter-Free
Yep, I get it. Physical reminders of your to-do list manifest themselves everywhere in the house. But if your end goal is sexual energy, the shopping list on the kitchen counter isn't affecting you as strongly as the unfolded laundry sitting in the corner of the bedroom.
While you may not be able to magically wish away all of the clutter in your home, instead, make a resolution to keep the clutter out of the bedroom. Don't even bring it in there. Allow the clutter and mess to pile up in spots outside of the bedroom -- so when you head to bed, your cuffs and restraints are the only thing in sight.
Pleasure Bound Lace Bed Restraint System. Available exclusively at Spencer's.Depending on how your home is set up, this might mean making a promise to yourself to fold and put away the laundry as soon as it's dry -- or to never go to bed with your day's make-up still laying on the vanity. It might include putting your gym clothes and shoes in the living room for your morning jog or storing your lifting equipment in a different room.
READ: Decorating Tips to Make Your Bedroom a Sanctuary for Sex.
Whatever it entails for you, keep the bedroom a stress-free place for sex -- and a place that doesn't instantly call to mind all of the things you "should" be doing instead of enjoying yourself. That's no fun for anyone!
8. Be Gentler to Yourself
Generic, yes. But useful? Also yes. Progress isn't linear. Success isn't linear. It's very likely that you're going to have days where you ignore all of your "good habits" -- and settle into the delicious sensations of the bad ones.
And that's OK! If you want your changes to last more than a month, you need to understand that "all or nothing" is not likely to work for most things. Taking an entire Dry January can be an amazing fresh start, but it takes a lot more willpower to never touch another drop of alcohol than to mentally agree to only drink at social events. Planning to avoid sweets for the rest of the year sounds like a workable gameplan, but when you're faced with the dessert menu at your once-a-year, favorite restaurant, that plan is going to seem near-impossible.
The point is: even the best-laid plans will not go to plan -- and giving yourself space and understanding when that happens is vital to making sure your choices stick. You aren't "giving up on your goals"; you're simply taking a break sometimes to enjoy the unexpected and amazing things about life. But then you hop back into your routine as soon as you comfortably can -- because it can be easy to let your habits slide by the wayside if you don't stick to them.
Like all things in life, we're going for that sweet spot of moderation -- because that's where most of us will find the best success.
Many people are starting to think about ways to improve their lives as we change our calendars to a new four digits. This new year, we encourage you to dedicate time and energy to having better sex -- because you deserve to feel good.