Try It, You'll Like It! 8 Sex Positions for Beginners
Published: JULY 19, 2022
| Updated: JULY 21, 2022 10:33:47
There are a lot of benefits to trying new sex positions: It gives you and your partner something new to experience together, it enhances intimacy and it provides new visuals and sensations. These eight beginner-friendly sex positions are a great place to start!
Have you popped into the Kinkly sex position database recently?
If you're anything like me, a visit there might make your eyes bulge out of your head—and then promptly cause you to write off experimenting with sex positions. Some of those positions look like Olympian feats to themselves!
But hear me out: There are a lot of benefits to trying new sex positions.
Not only does it give you and your partner something new to experience together (to enhance intimacy and keep things feeling fresh!), but it also provides new visuals and sensations. If you stick with Missionary position every time you have sex, you'll never know what intercourse can feel like from a different angle—or get to see your partner's body in a whole new light.
(And if you don't like the new sex position you try out, you can always go back to old favorites! No harm done!)
So, here are some beginner sex positions to get you started exploring new ways to pretzel your bodies together.
READ: 5 Super Easy (And Fun!) Sex Positions for Beginners.
What is the Best Sex Position for Beginners?
So, we've talked about some neat positions—but which one is the best sex position for beginners?
Well, that's a bit of a trick question. You see, there isn't just one.
The best beginner sex position for you will be different than the best beginner sex position for Janet or Bob next door. You have a unique body—completely different than anyone else's. So it makes sense that the sex positions that work best for you will be just as unique as you are!
The best sex position for a beginner is the one that feels best for you.
And you can only figure that out from exploration. Try new sex positions. Find the ways your bodies fit together best. As you're exploring, look for these things to help you figure out what is best for you both:
- Comfort. The best beginner sex position for you and your partner(s) should be comfortable and honor your bodies. Numb limbs, pinched nerves and sore muscles don't make for a position you'll want to want to go to often.
- Sexual fulfillment. Make sure your best sex position provides the sexual ending you're both looking for. Does that mean you need hand-to-penis or hand-to-clitoral access to make orgasms happen? Make sure that fits.
- Connection. How much connection and intimacy are you looking for? Does the sex position provide enough face-to-face time? Enough skin-on-skin contact? Enough kissing?
- Sustainability. Not all sex positions are created equal for cardiovascular and muscular requirements. Make sure the best beginner sex position for you and yours allows you to enjoy it for as long as you both want to.
So, experiment with your new sex positions for beginners, talk it out with your partner, and you both can figure out what the best sex position for a beginner is for your unique bodies.
READ: 6 Sex Positions Made for Big, Beautiful Bodies.
8 Sex Positions for Beginners
Not sure where to start though? That's what Kinkly's here for! While the key to finding the best sex position for a beginner is giving some new positions a try, you won't be able to give new positions a try unless you know of some new ones!
So, here are eight to get you started:
Tons of skin-on-skin contact without lots of physical strain? Heck yes. Welcome to the Cross Position!
To get into it, both partners simply lie down at a 90 degree angle from each other and enjoy the swap in sensations and visuals.
Since neither partner is doing a lot of heavy lifting here, the Cross Position can be sustainable for longer periods of time—and with everyone's hands free for pleasure, it can be a great way to enjoy continued skin-on-skin contact. Hold hands, stimulate the receiver, flick the nipples and enjoy being able to easily see the pleasure on your partner's face!
READ: A Beginner’s Guide to Nipple Play.
Modify It With: If the penetrating partner has wide hips, you might find that the angles don't quite match up. If that's the case, consider sliding a Liberator Wedge or Dame Pillo under the receiver's hips for a bit of added height. If you're finding it hard to get lots of movement with the Cross position, consider having sex on top of a blanket to make it easier to slide back and forth.
Try It With: Your favorite large sex toys!
As the Cross Position leaves all the room in the world, you can pull out your wand massagers, large penis strokers and more. We're thinking the Arcwave Ion, Magic Wand Mini, and LELO Smart Wand Medium. No need to watch the size of your toy here!
This sex position looks way more difficult than it actually is!
The biggest key to nailing the Desk Domination Position is finding a sturdy surface that matches up with the penetrating partner's height. Once you have that, it's as simple as one partner laying down and the other standing up!
Despite being so simple to pull off, the Desk Domination Position has that "gotta have it now" feeling to it that really rewards you for trying a new sex position. It also leaves both partners' hands available and open for touching one another. This can make it easy to ensure the receiving partner has the stimulation they need for orgasm!
READ: How to Have an Orgasm With a Partner.
Modify It With: A new surface.
Finding a taller, or shorter, surface will instantly modify the angle of penetration. Just make sure it's safe to rest your weight on!
Try It With: A bit of bondage! Both partners' wrists and the receiver's ankles are open for cuffs and restraints in the Desk Domination Position. These can add some great sensations to an already stimulating position!
Make penetration feel as deep as possible with the Turtle Sex Position. With the receiving partner curled up, the vaginal/anal canal can feel shallower and tighter—which can make penetration feel different for the both of you!
Think of the Turtle Sex Position like a Doggy Style Position; the only main difference is that, in the Turtle Position, the receiving partner tries to bring their chest as close to their thighs as possible.
READ: Doggy Style Position: How to ACTUALLY Make it Feel Good.
Modify It With: Pillows or a small piece of sex furniture (like the Liberator Jaz) to prop up the receiver's chest and make breathing easier. While getting as curled up as possible is important to changing the penetration sensation, it's more important to pay attention to your body and ensure you don't overstretch your back and hamstrings. Don't hurt yourself in the Turtle Sex Position!
Try It With: Double penetration!
In vagina-owning receiving partners, the addition of an anal toy (like a butt plug or anal vibrator) can make the vaginal canal feel even more snug and further change up the position for both partners. Try the b-Vibe Snug Plug, the Nexus Simul8, the Rocks-Off Cocktail for a "set it and forget it" anal option or the Odile or Hot Octopuss PleX with Flex if the penetrating partner wants to be actively involved.
Simply sitting up can instantly change everything about intercourse.