Speaking of quality, another thing you tend to get for your money is range. If your partner has to point the controls within a foot or two of you, you're going to end up feeling like a broken television set. So not sexy.
Go for Quality
There's no shortage of cheap, flimsy things that vibrate and dare to call themselves sex toys. They can be titillating, they can be fun, but it’s a high-quality, well-designed sex toy that’ll really give you a night to remember. High-quality vibrators are equipped with high-quality motors that deliver more power - and more of the right kind of power - than most cheap novelties (vibrating panties, I'm looking at you). Quality doesn't always mean super high cost though. Shop around and read reviews to a get a sense of what's available in your price range.
Have Some Rules of Play
Letting someone else take control of your pleasure can be hot as hell - if you set some ground rules. I know, I know, talking rules doesn’t sound sexy, but talking sex certainly is. Tell your partner how you would like them to wield those controls. Do you want to be brought to your knees unexpectedly in a public a place, or allowed to gently succumb to pleasure at home? What excites you? What boundaries do you want to push (and which ones do you want to leave right where they are thankyouverymuch?) Simply saying those things out loud might prove to be nearly as hot as the play to follow. But not quite. (Get some tips on how to talk dirty in Talk Dirty to Me: The How and Why of Hot Aural Sex.)
Fly Solo First
Nothing ruins a perfectly good orgasm like fumbling with unfamiliar controls - or suddenly losing power at the most crucial moment. New toys often take a little practice. Before bringing your brand new, remote-controlled friend out on the town, try it out at home. Play, fantasize and learn at your leisure. That way if you do decide to take it public, you and your partner will be experts at getting right down to business (and pure, uninterrupted pleasure).
Flirting with a little indiscretion can be fun, but do try to be conscious of your surroundings - and the other people you're sharing them with. And that nice, old couple sitting at the table next to you? They probably don't want to know about the shenanigans going on under your tablecloth. You and your partner have consented to play in public. The public at large has not consented to join in the fun. Plus, keeping your pleasure under wraps is half the fun!
Remote controlled vibrators are all about putting your pleasure in someone else’s hands. Letting someone else hold those controls can be really sexy, but before you run out the door with a vibrator tucked into your pants, talk to your partner about the rules of play. You may not be in agreement about what's sexy - or about whether the frozen foods aisle is the right place to play.