Eyes are expressive and uniquely beautiful. Use yours to your advantage!
Lesson No.3: Throw Out Body Stereotypes
I don't care what porn or the media or past lovers have said: I promise you, you don’t need enormous breasts. Picture terrifying teenage me again. At that age, I wore a 32E bra. And guess what? It didn't make me feel sexy. It really is OK not to have huge bazongas. And trust me, it'll allow you to get away with more interesting cuts of clothing and infinitely more beautiful bras! I’m now a 28FF. I do not fit luxurious undergarments and so, no lover has ever bought me lingerie. If you have life experience, something to talk about and can dress for the occasion, I promise your dainty breasts will not make you look any less of a woman.
Oh, and if you do need a bra, make sure it fits! You deserve a garment that flatters your body and makes you feel fabulous. (Breasts are a major part of many women's sexual identities. Read one woman's story in Why a Feminist Like Me Would Actually Consider Getting a Boob Job.)
And always remember: If you’re undressing for a lover, they will already be so excited that they are about to have sex, all the parts you hate about your body will be the last thing on their mind. Don’t rush for the light switch. Instead, dim the lights and drive them wild by undressing slowly. It's a tactic that's been tried and tested by burlesque dancers of all shapes and sizes the world over.
Lesson No. 4: Know Yourself
Knowledge is sexy, as is knowing what you want. Get to know your own body and what turns it on. Get to know your own mind too. People are attracted to different things, but what's most attractive to others is if you're confident and in love with your own look. If you love the vamp look, go for it! If you prefer a different style, be yourself - you can always break out the fishnets (or whatever you like) for special occasions! Kari Byron from the TV show "Mythbusters" wears T-shirts, jeans and overalls, yet appears regularly on "Most Sexy" lists. When it comes to sexy, anything goes. What really matters is whether your style makes you feel sexy.
If you are the best, most confident version of yourself you can be, you won’t ever need to fall into awkward clichés or Dutch courage. No bending over while licking your lips for you. No breast squeezing or eyelid fluttering (does anyone actually do that??) required - just you, and the knowledge that you are very, very sexy.