It has been one of those weeks that is full of sex news or many different sorts. These weeks are the best! We’ve got tips and news, views and just a little bit of snark.

Wake Me Up to Go-Go

Seems like it is time to start beginning your day right: with some sexytime fun. Recent work by biochemist Dr. Musa Yakubu suggests that morning sex is not only fun, but it also brings with it some significant health benefits. As someone who has never been a fan of first-thing friskiness, I groan a little at the thought. Yet we are realizing more and more that sex is not just a way to have fun or a way to make babies. Yakubu notes that morning sex lowers blood pressure, releases oxytocin, and can help increase the efficiency of your immune system to help stave off colds and flus. Fine! Okay! I’ll start having sex and masturbating in the morning. But only because it’s good for me.

VR Future View

There’s a significant revolution happening in the porn industry—and like most revolutions, it has grown out of dire straits and the need for change. Porn was riding high into the 2000s, productions were abounding with the advents of newer, cheaper technologies. Talents were getting paid and studios were successful. Distribution was also great with the growing prevalence of the Internet. Then we discovered how to illegally download and free tube and clip sites took over, forcing the porn world to its knees. Something had to change. Something new had to be developed. Is that innovation the widespread use of virtual reality in porn? This brief interview with Todd Gilder, CEO of BaDoinkVR, one company that is leading the VR charge, gives a little peek into what our porn and sex education opportunities might be like in the near future.

Who Am I?

Only we, our individual selves, are most aware of the person we put out there in the world. We know our individual personality presentations can change according to the person we are with at the time. We have our work self, our parenting self, our child self—and navigating our different selves can be tricky. I once performed my one-and-only performance art piece on this very subject. It was awful, but it was a point I was certainly struggling with at the time. Malin James does the idea significantly more justice in this exploration of the idea of fluid personalities with different lovers. It is intriguing to explore that dynamic because the personalities we project at work and with family—these might might be necessities. Yet how you are with your sexual partners, that seems to be more primal and complementary....Intriguing read!

The Trick Is to Keep Breathing

Orgasm is a tricky thing, almost a cruel trick of our biological development. Sometimes you can get so damn close, but then...nope. Not happening. That can be frustrating! It is no secret that this type of situation is more likely to happen for people who have clitorises—but the cause might have nothing to do with genitals at all. It may have to do with one of our most basic body functions of all: breathing. Changing up how you breath during sex could dramatically change your likelihood of having orgasms. Think about your own sexual actions and the ways other people you’ve had sex with react when they’re just about to get off. One of the most common reactions is holding your breath. Whether that is reflex, intentional, or learned, establishing a deep flow of breathing just might take your breath away.

Skirting Stereotypes

I certainly like the idea of Skirt Club, a members-only party series and community for bisexual women. Establishing safe spaces to explore sexuality is a great thing and should be encouraged. However, two things irked me about the video ad that is nested in this article. First, by leading with the text “When your man is not enough” the Skirt Club folks are falling into the same stereotypical trope that a bisexual woman is involved with a man and that sexual situation is someone dysfunctional—and for that reason she seeks the touch of a woman. Not because she just has that desire. Not because she’s entirely happy with her life, but wants more. Nope, because she is dissatisfied. This is the type of line that makes breaking stereotypes about bisexual people so very hard. Also, I hope that unsatisfied woman happens to be slim and white because, from the ad, that is who attends these events. The lighting is a little dark, but I don’t think I’m wrong. Have we learned nothing about the need to include diversity in sexual marketing? This type of presentation makes the promoters seem less interested in sexual exploration and more keen to pull in those $150 event fees.

Traveling with Toys

Finally, packing to go away on a trip can be a stressful thing. Why not pack some of your favourite sexy playthings to ease that stress once you get to you destination? Of course, the thought of packing those sexy playthings can lead to more stress because what if someone finds them or they start buzzing during the flight and the next thing you know you’re blacklisted from flying ever again! Well, this is a vicious circle to avoid, so check out these tips for packing your sex toys for travel.