There’s an overriding theme of maturity to this week’s Sex Stories We Love. We’re advancing to a new age where we understand difficult language, where we shift and change laws to accept new realities. We recognizing individual sexual choices and the amazing places sex can take us. Oh, and we’re thinking about boning aliens.

Porn Growing Up?

Sometimes I think about porn as a growing, evolving person. Its early years were spent figuring out its body, moving from its infancy in film, and then going a bit wild in the teenage, take-no-prisoners VHS years. The Internet was porn’s psuedo-intellectual 20s, when it thought it had things all figured out but was really just a fumbling, hipster wannabe. Finally, porn is reaching a level of maturity that belies someone in their 30s. Porn is now able to reason and reflect, and better yet, provide its own critique. Is this a new level of maturity? Hopefully. Part of maturity is an understanding of how porn’s own language is holding it back and perpetuating negativity about sex - within the industry and outside it. It is great to see efforts like this coming from performers and producers who carry influence.

Cougar Conundrum

There is a flip-side to the discussion of the language of sexuality: sometimes people actually embrace terms other folks use as pejoratives. The word cougar, for instance, often has a negative spin attached to it, describing a sexually-insatiable older woman who preys on young men as sexual conquests. That’s the common media depiction in movies, television and porn. Yet, have you ever read the words of a self-professed cougar and how she feels about owning this term and all of its historical implications? Now, should cougar be included in the new porn taxonomy or can it enjoy a positive existence in society?

Spank State

It is nice to see science doing its best to keep up with sexuality - and doing its best to catch up with phenomena that has been acknowledged but not documented. Researchers recently studied a small sample of people exploring the altered state of consciousness that can be brought on by a satisfying BDSM scene. In a limited study (not sure why it couldn’t have been bigger; volunteers can’t be that hard to find), people were coupled up and engaged in a hot BDSM situation, and scientists observed their moods and their flow state. Go figure, the participants “reported lower stress, better mood and scored a high level of flow on a scale that measures flow state.” Also breaking news: water is wet.

Shifting Statutes

It is great to be taken to an altered state during sex, but it shouldn’t happen via a chemical unknowingly thrust upon you by someone else. The world has been grappling with the many accusations brought against former television good guy, Bill Cosby. As time goes on, it is getting harder to believe that any justice will come from this case, but longer-term opportunities are presenting themselves. Some jurisdictions, such as California, are amending their statute of limitations for sexual assault cases. This is a great step forward.

If I Were a Rich Fucker...

I’ll admit, I sometimes play the lottery. If it is a particularly big jackpot, I’ll pick up a ticket or join in the office pool. Why not? It can be kinda fun to think of the things that could change if I woke up one day stinkin’ rich. However, I have to admit, I’ve never given the faintest thought to how my sex life would change if I were suddenly wealthy (it certainly would not involving drugging and assaulting unsuspecting people, I do know that). I also don’t think it would involve a great investment in premium sex toys or membership to exclusive sex clubs, but that’s just me. Frankly, the most intriguing possibility when it comes to being rich and sexy is that I’ll probably have a lot more leisure time to relax and rest and, hopefully, get laid! What would you want out of your sex life if money were no object?

Intergalactic Prophylactic

Finally, I have to disagree here. I am glad Sweden is asking NASA to take condoms for aliens. I’m glad they’re taking that initiative to educate our someday alien friends about our safer-sex needs. Because, I have to disagree here: if aliens are coming to Earth, I’ll certainly be hopeful of enjoying some sexy times with alien hotties! Even in a tongue-in-cheek article, it is ludicrous to think that people won’t want to tap some alien ass as soon as possible. Every single movie or television show that depicts an alien race that is regarded as even remotely attractive to human eyes has involved some interstellar sexy times. Just like with dreams of rich sex, there will be folks dreaming of sex that is entirely fantastical and very unlikely to ever happen. And if it does? It's best to be prepared!