I love the idea that the phrase "sex culture" can now exist. For too long, the two words were kept far apart from each other and that impeded and informed so much of our world today. Now they’ve come together and this union will provide great change.

Not for Sale

Many were saddened and shocked to learn of trans activist and performer Alexis Arquette’s passing. Arquette was a beloved figure after roles in "The Wedding Singer" and "Pulp Fiction." Her significant work in bringing trans issues and awareness to attention was greatly appreciated. She will be missed. Because of her notoriety, it should come as no surprise that someone tried to profiteer off her death by offering to sell a sex tape involving Arquette. The tape is believed to be two years old. Who’d have thought porn site xHamster would come riding in to buy the copies of the tape and destroy them all? It is an appreciated gesture from an unlikely ally, one that is not always known for its respect of sexual privacy and ownership. Good job.

C'Mon Boys

This next piece is devastating - and all too real. As parents, we want our children to grow, to learn, and to absorb the movements and evolution of society and culture. However,to read, from mother Jody Allard that her teenage sons do not acknowledge, understand, or respect the existence of rape culture is heartbreaking. This is especially true when you consider Allard's personal life circumstances: she's a survivor of rape and sexual assault. Unfortunately, the behavior she describes in her children and their friends is not uncommon. It, sadly, is the norm. It was certainly that way when I was young. I know I was like that. I’d hoped more had changed in 25 years.

Judging Judges

It is hard and sad to say that a judge going above and beyond to punish a rapist is shocking, while another judge who is re-victimizing survivors is par for the course. That’s where we’re at in terms of rape culture (hear that, boys?). A Toronto judge recently handed down the longest sentence he could to Mustafa Ururyar who raped Mandi Gray. Not only did Uruyar get 18 months, but he was also ordered to pay the extra legal fees Gray incurred because she needed extra counseling and legal representation. The judge in the case also made very significant statements, now recorded in legal lore, that could be a step in the right direction. Or, at least in a direction away from another, wholly horrible judicial debacle happening in a different part of Canada. This time the judge made awful comments, including the now infamous admonishment “keep your knees together” to a rape survivor. He also let the accused walk. One step forward, two steps back.

Poly Recognition

Another significant societal change is the recognition and movement toward acceptance of polyamorous unions. While people have always lived and loved in a number of different configurations, fear of legal repercussions have long held these folks from living their loves fully out in the open. That prejudice might be lessening as people recognize that poly relationships aren’t necessarily about sex. So, with a movement toward acceptance, it just might be time to start changing the legal barriers to poly relationships. This article is set in Canadian law; however, it is relevant to jurisdictions all around the world.

Double for Pleasure

Is there anything more glorious than a rapturous ode to sexual pleasure? Particularly when those words are rare, or, potentially never before spoken. Vanessa de Largie’s delicious ode to double penetration celebrates an intimate act that is rarely considered in personal lives but widely depicted in porn. Double penetration is most often portrayed as exploitative and demeaning, making it seem like something that doesn’t happen in the personal, but only in porn. Vanessa’s poetic reverence of the orgasmic joys and excitement double penetration does bring to some is an important reminder that the world spins in many different sexual ways.

Nope. Maybe More

Finally, did you enjoy any s’mores around a campfire this summer? Did it stop you from masturbating? Didn’t think so.