We are all different from each other. While some parts of society are still projecting a homogenized portrayal of what sex is supposed to be...we know otherwise. We know difference is delightful.

Trans Youth and Pregnancy

One of the most important things we are learning about sex is that we are constantly in the need to continually learn more about sex—and then disseminate that information as education. One of the most significant areas of needed research and study is in understanding the sexual needs and experiences of transgender people, especially after this interesting research was released: trans youth are involved in teen pregnancy at the same rate at cis-youth. This might fly in the face of much that we presume about transgender sexual experience. As noted in the article, all too often, transgender folks are thought to be without sex—that body-related issues overcome a desire to be sexually active. This assumption really needs to go. Another predominant thought is that someone who transitions will automatically be attracted to their cis-opposite. So, a trans-woman will want a cis-man. Again, this thinking is narrow. Of course, anybody can be attracted to anybody! Hormone therapy is widely believed to virtually kill reproductive capacity, but in reality they affect different people in different ways.

The Sweetest Candy

It may seem odd, but a British candy manufacturer may have made one of the most important statements about sex and people with disabilities—and they did it with a commercial. This brilliant piece of work features Storme Toolis, who has cerebral palsy and uses a wheelchair, telling her friends about a new boyfriend, with whom she was getting “frisky.” When she reveals she had a spasm while touching his penis, the friends worry that things got awkward. Nope. A sly smile and demonstration with a bag of exploding Maltesers tells a different story with a decidedly happy ending. There are countless reasons this commercial is so great. It makes sex and disability a part of sexual conversation. It features a disabled person talking about sex. It brings together the very human occurrence of awkwardness and sex. It shows women talking casually about sex. If you think back 20 years, would any of this—let alone the complete package—be the narrative for a candy commercial?


Written on the Body

When we reflect on accomplishments and goals, it is sometimes referred to as leaving our mark. When it comes to sex and relationships, the term is most often considered a figurative one. Oh sure, hickeys are a tell-tale sign of teenage exploration and those who have a penchant for BDSM may relish the bruises and cuts of a session well-played. Would you consider bringing the art of tattoo into your sex life? Tattoos are a much more accepted form of personal expression these days, in some areas, but they do still remain an outlier of mainstream acceptance. However, as mentioned in the article, there is definitely an appeal on both sides of the tattoo gun. Now that I’ve tried both, I liken my tattoo experience to trying an e-stim machine. If you’re into giving pain sensation, that gun just might be the sexiest toy around. So, whether you’re tattooing in the moment or as a way to demarcate a body as “yours,” ink just might be the new fetish apparel.

Circumspect?

“Let it have its ears!”

If you’re a fan of Arrested Development, you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about, but if not then we’re not actually going to get into some kind of ear play. No, we’re talking uncircumcised penises and the many misconceptions and stigma that surround foreskin. There are many different beliefs around the world regarding circumcision, so depending on who you tend to hook up with will indicate the likelihood of how often you’re going to encounter in foreskin or not. However, that hasn’t stopped the sexual media, you know, porn, from generally presenting the cut cock as the ideal cock. And that can leave a lot of folks generally unsure what to do with their first uncircumcised penis. The article has some great advice if you’re new to turtleneck toys.

Sexy and Heart Smart

Many of us are taught that sex is not for the faint of heart. Of course, the common thinking of that phrase refers to emotions and feelings, but apparently there are some risks for our actual hearts as well. A controversial study indicates there are potential heart risks for older men and how they have sex. It seems they can’t have really enjoyable sex too often. Occasional, mediocre sex? Well, that seems to be fine, I think? Because this new study seems to contradict some long-standing beliefs about the physical benefits of sexual activity, it is great to see an article that pulls people in from both sides of the argument. There are even emotional considerations involved, as well as pharmaceutical factors. With our current aging population, it is an important topic to continually discuss with your physician.