Well, times like this are bound to come along. And by times I mean shit storms of bad sexual news that might leave us a bit broken. However, our upset means things are moving in the right direction. And not everything was bad. Let’s think about that as well.

A Terrible Week

OK, I don’t want to start this party off as a downer, but it has to be acknowledged that there was some pretty unpleasant happenings in the world of sex this week. After serving only three months for sexual assault, Brock Turner was released from prison. Another celebrity sexual convict, Jared Fogle, argued in a court filing that he is not responsible for the suffering of one of his child porn victims - her parents are. Fogle did request that his friend and accomplice film the victim in compromising situations without her knowledge, but nope, her parents' behavior is to blame. Fifteen-time Playboy cover model Pamela Anderson co-wrote an op-ed in the Wall Street Journal decrying the influence of porn, calling all those people who paid to see her those 15 times “losers.” Internationally respected and Iconic Toronto sex shop Come As You Are quietly closed their bricks and mortar location, a space local and visiting folks came to love for its amazing inclusive atmosphere. Fortunately, they are still helping the sexual community online.

There’s a lot of fight to be had, people...though I understand if you’re weary after this week that was.

Dressing Up

Let’s move on to something a little superficial and fun. What do you wear when you’re looking to pick someone up? What do you pull out of the wardrobe when you’re hoping to hook up? These folks shared their enticing ensembles and you can see the wide variety of styles folks feel comfortable in. In so many cases in the animal world, external coloring and plumage are determining factors in whether individuals will connect. To some degree, the same can be said of humans. We go through great physical lengths to try and attract those we find desirable, some quite extreme. Is it necessary? Worth it? I guess you'll find out in the morning.

Hump Day Bumps

For many folks, one of the most pure forms of comfort - sexual or otherwise - is masturbation. The opportunity to be alone and experience pleasure as only we can bring our own bodies can be both highly-charged and truly cathartic. This opportunity can be especially true for women as it is a chance to enjoy their sexuality without any presence of male gaze or pressure on their bodies. It is from this base that artist Shanthony Exum dropped an amazing earworm that is both sexy and significant. As her rap persona Miss Eaves, Exum presents Hump Day, an exploration of women’s authentic pleasure expressions during masturbation. It's an awesome message wrapped in an awesome track.

Erotic Emoji

I was readying myself for something shocking when I saw this next headline: Someone's made a sex toy based on an emoji - and you can probably predict which one… I had just come back from the Canadian National Exhibition and, I swear, I saw so many people wearing poop emoji hats that I just assumed that had to be the one. Well, it isn’t - and honestly, the eggplant emoji is a pretty natural fit for a sex toy. Its got the shape and size and isn’t phallic in presentation. And it is pretty cute. All of these factors will appeal for sexy times, although you may get distracted by how a real eggplant might taste with some parm…

Name Is Not a Game

There have been many people I’ve met, worked with, become friends with...and I’ve never known what they were dubbed on their birth certificate. And it doesn’t matter at all. In the world of sex blogging and sex writing, it is quite common to use an alias or pseudonym - and for good reason. Writing about sex can be traumatic and difficult. It can be revealing and personal. It can be legally difficult. It can bring unwanted attention to other members of your circle or family. There are countless reasons for sex writers and bloggers to maintain some anonymity. But it is important and their chosen names should be accepted and respected.

Carnal Canvases

Finally, take a midweek break to explore some art! BDSM has a long history as the theme of enticing and challenging works. Check out nine compelling BDSM artists from the past you’re bound to be intrigued by.