It's far too easy to talk about sex as a singular entity, as something that lives on its own and is separate from the rest of our lives. In reality, as this week’s selections for Sex Stories We Love show us, sex is intertwined with almost everything we do - work, home, sports, law, and so much more. So often the word “sex” is associated to the word “coupled,” but really, sex has a polyamorous relationship with all of the different parts of society.

Sex Product Policing

It is hard to believe that there are still places where it is illegal to sell sex toys. I remember laughing at the concept back when I heard The Wet Spots performing “Texas Annie,” but it seems the spirit is still in place in Sandy Springs, Georgia. This court may have been following a previous ruling that it was compelled to uphold, but doesn’t this still speak to a need to review many different laws involving sex, sexual products, sexual entertainment, and the people who are involved in and purchase these items and services? One of the people involved in this case was a woman with multiple sclerosis who just wants to enjoy sex with her husband in the best way possible - without the invasive necessity of a medical note. There is nothing obscene about that.

Required Research

Yet it isn’t just sexual apparatuses that cause people fear. Many are still afraid of even learning more about sex! Ever since Masters and Johnson and Kinsey began their groundbreaking research, scientists and academics in this field have faced roadblocks and hurdles. This interview with Dr. Nicole Prause is just one example of what sex researchers confront as they try to learn about and potentially better all of our sex lives. Not a day goes by that we don’t hear about some study or another that leaves us scratching our heads. I know I often wonder “Why is time, energy and money being spent on that?!?!” While at the same time, sex research is still often considered to be taboo.

A Food & Sex Sandwich

OK, I’ve got to admit that coming across this recent article left me feeling a little bewildered because I’ve been bugging friends, acquaintances, and interview subjects with the same question for years and years: What would you prefer - a good meal or good sex? Well, here’s proving the value of sex research because we learn that for some folks, the answer is sex and for others the answer is food! Specifically, this study focuses on what feels better. It reveals that sex and eating just might be the most pleasurable physical activities in which we partake. Women, in particular, seem to take more pleasure in eating. But maybe that just means women aren’t receiving sexual gratification at home. There’s definitely more discussion to be had here, but is anyone else thinking that combining the two just might be the holy grail of pleasure?

Score!

Another form of pleasure is physical activity. This seems like another worthwhile activity to combine with sex. There is a lot of porn that takes place in gyms! However, there has been a longstanding belief that athletes should abstain from sex before competing. We’ve heard the stories of coaches banning their athletes from sex for the period of time before a big game or race. As it turns out, sex before athletics just might be a good thing - and just in time for the Rio Olympics. The funny thing is, as much as coaches might try to tell their teams to lay off getting laid, the number of condoms supplied in the Athlete’s Village in Rio suggests they know that isn’t going to happen.

Copyroom Canoodling

Sometimes, though, trying to combine two disparate things can result in problems. Not always, but sometimes. Take these confessions of people having sex in the workplace. Yeah, this might be a hot and sexy thing to fantasize about ... but the potential for catastrophe is really high and you’ll have to decide whether or not it is actually worth the potential downfall. These stories all ended well enough and if you decided to get it on at your place of business, here’s hoping you don’t get caught or seen. Personally speaking, if I ever hit this particular bucket list item, I just hope I’m on the clock at the same time. That is what truly makes it hot for me!

Fiddling Freedom

And finally, speaking of getting caught, who among us has had the misfortune of being “caught” masturbating. It isn’t a pleasant experience because, more often than not, you’re usually discovered by a member of your family or someone with whom you do not want to experience anything even remotely sexual. Yet it happens and it is embarrassing. Hopefully everybody can just move along like nothing happened at all. On the other hand, wouldn’t it be even better if we could take shame right out of the equation? Imagine a situation where you get up to leave the room and someone asks, “What are you doing?” and you say, “I’m going to masturbate,” - and it is no big deal at all!