Hot on the heels of Masturbation Month is #AdultSexEdMonth! Created and championed by our late friend Bobbie Morgan, Adult Sex Ed Month continues on this June in Bobbie’s memory—and because it is a vital point of distribution of information about sex. Information not everybody has ready access to. Information that we need. Please tag me on Twitter along with your #AdultSexEdMonth posts!

Some Folks Learn...Some Folks Don't!

Some school boards are doing it right...others aren’t. A vital part of adult sex ed is understanding where sex ed has succeeded for youth and where it has failed. Recently, the state of California put itself on the good list by legislating that consent be a mandatory part of their sexual health curriculum. Yay!

On the other hand, the trustees of Halton, Ontario’s Catholic school board affirmed their high ranking on the shit list by failing to pass anti-bullying and discipline policy because the words 'sexual orientation' and 'gender identity' were included. Some trustees objected on the basis that these words would go against church doctrine. Sigh. This isn’t the first time that this board has been difficult. Ontario has made big strides in sex, sexuality, and gender education in the past year, but some school boards remain resistant. I’ll just leave you with this: this board is publicly funded.

40+ Frisky

Here's a story that speaks to the need and success of adult sex ed: people over 40 are feeling pretty good about sex and having a fucking great time! We’ve long heard the idea that sex lives dry up and become a thing of the past after we hit the big 4-0. According to a study by Dr. Robin Milhausen for Trojan, lots of folks in so-called middle-age are enjoying pleasurable experiences. In fact, Milhausen discovered that their sex lives are not only very good, but as people get older, they become more adventurous and are interested in trying new things. I can’t help but think that this is a clear indication that folks are getting the important information about sexual options and opportunities. Awesome!

No Butts About It

An important part of adult sex ed is dispelling myths and helping people understand the actualities of our big sexual world. And maybe that world involves big butts! But, but...how did those butts get big and shapely? This rumour was news to me, but apparently there's been a long standing rumour that having sex will increase the size and/or shape of women's bums. This thought was based on the hormones flowing around the body during sex and orgasm. Turns out that this biological theory is pretty much bunk, but there could be a psychological factor at play. Good thing we got to the bottom of that!

STI 411

Some of the most common and frequently raised topics of concern among adults and sex education are the myths and misconceptions surrounding sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Health concerns have long been the elephant in the bedroom with people really not wanting to discuss or deal with the awkward and embarrassing conversations that come with discussing your health status and past partners. But this is too important to ignore—both for yourself and anyone you play with. Check out this quick reference to some of the common beliefs and misunderstandings that gotta go.

Kink Doesn't Bite

Let’s not forget something about adult sex ed: it is all about learning. Everybody can learn something new about sex at anytime. It might be something you take home and want to do over and over, or it might be something you consider, decide you’re not into, and then (hopefully) respect the people who do find enjoyment in it. That is the ideal, but we need to change a lot of negative attitudes to get there. Cara Sutra recently watched the backlash against puppy play unfold when a morning television show explored puppy play, from both a sexual and non-sexual context. Well, didn’t viewers just lose their shit on that. Puppy play is a subculture that hasn’t received a lot of attention, but has gained some traction in recent times. But wouldn’t it be great if, as Cara suggests, people could better understand the idea Your Kink Is Not My Kink (YKINMK)?

Favourited/Liked/Shared

There’s a good chance you’ve come to this article through social media. That’s great! We’re learning more and more that social media does play a significant role in introducing many different aspects of sex education. While social media can be derided and is often full of time-wasters, finding the good stuff can be life changing. This has been particularly true for those who have learned about PrEP via a very influential Facebook group. Many folks really have no idea that a daily, anti-HIV medicine that has a 99%+ success rate in blocking the transmission of HIV. However, social media’s reach will hopefully bring this information to many others.

And Finally...

And just because: dick lipsticks. Discuss!