Neon and violet wands look nearly identical. They consist of a hand-held base powered by a wall outlet. A number of attachments plug into the base, the most common of which consists of glass electrodes. Powered on, the electrodes glow like the tubing in a neon sign. When you hover the glass about a quarter of an inch above the surface of someone’s skin, an arc of electricity jumps out.
It’s very similar to the "lightning" that bounces around inside a plasma ball. The person on the receiving end feels sensation wherever the small, lightning-like electric arc touches them.
What do electrosex wands feel like?
On lower settings wands can feel like a slight tingle, a tickle, or pleasantly warm. Turning the power up escalates the response to a static shock feeling, a sharp prickling, or intense scratching sensation. Some say that on very high settings, a wand feels like a tattoo gun.
But ... you kind of have to try it yourself to really know the answer. Everyone feels the effects of wands a little differently due to body density, moisture levels in the skin, and a number of other factors.
What’s better for electrosex, a Neon Wand or violet wand?
I always recommend Kinklab’s Neon Wand for beginners and most experienced players. It’s a smart choice for a number of reasons. An average violet wand kit typically runs in the $400 - $500 (USD) range, while the Neon Wand sells for $100 - $150 (USD). Plus, violet wands are based on old, Victorian-era technology.
They're harder to control, can only be used for 10-15 minutes at a time before overheating, and can "leak" electricity from the handle, unexpectedly zapping whoever is holding it. The improved technology in the solid-state Neon Wand eliminates these undesirable effects.
Some BDSM players who enjoy extremely painful sensations may not find the Neon Wand powerful enough. Luckily, adding an inexpensive Power Tripper attachment to a Neon Wand can amplify its intensity enough to satisfy those who crave serious pain. One end of this attachment plugs into the hand-held base of the Neon Wand. The other end sports a small, flat metal piece that the bottom (the person receiving sensation) either holds or tucks into a piece of clothing like a waistband or bra.
As long as that flat metal piece is in constant contact with the bottom’s skin, their entire body becomes one big electrode. In other words, their whole body is electrified!
When the top (the person giving sensation) hovers their fingers just above the bottom’s skin, a lightning-like spark passes between them that they both feel. This effect works with any surface on either partner’s body, like tongues, genitals, feet, etc.
The top can also touch their partner with any conductive metal object. Things like silverware, Wartenberg pinwheels, metal chains, aluminum foil, holiday tinsel, stainless steel dildos, or wire brushes all double as erotic instruments. Each object is unique and conducts differently, giving you an infinite number of unique sensations to play with.
The intensity of those sensations is still controlled by the power setting on the hand-held unit, allowing you to choose whether your instruments deliver pleasure or delicious torture. (Read: Review: nJoy Pure Wand.)
How can I use an electrosex wand with my partner?
Neon Wands are wonderful couples’ toys and are ideal for bringing creativity and playfulness into the bedroom. They help focus your attention on erogenous zones you may otherwise ignore. Bringing those sweet spots to life can enhance foreplay and intensify the whole sexual experience.
Think about it: When was the last time you made your lover quiver by stimulating the back of their knees or paying careful attention to the entire length of their arm?
Electric wands can help you explore with a new lover or rediscover forgotten joys with a long-time partner. Of course, wands feel amazingly erotic on nipples and the surface of the genitals also. Electrified oral sex using the Power Tripper is a favorite among electrosex enthusiasts.
Lastly, don’t forget role-playing. For those of us who are into that sort of thing, wands make awesome props for mad scientist or doctor/patient scenarios. (Consider it part of your "sex lab." (Learn more in Getting Curious: The Surprising Skill for Hot, Fun and Consent-Happy Sex.)
OK. But are electrosex toys safe?
Although Neon and violet wands deliver very low levels of electricity and are considered very safe, they shouldn’t be used by anyone who has a pacemaker, insulin pump or any other electronic medical implant.
Pregnant women and people with heart arrhythmias or abnormalities should also stay away from electrosex wands.
Glass electrodes are not intended for insertion into any orifice like the vagina, anus or mouth. And you should never use wands on or near the eyes.
I’m bummed I can’t use electrosex wands for masturbation or internal genital stimulation. Do I have any other options?
Yes, you do! If you’d rather cut to the chase and go right for the intense orgasms, a TENS unit may be more up your alley.