Perception is a tricky thing when it comes to matters of sex. Our go-to is to rely on a combination of the experience of our senses combined with learned knowledge and a dash of social history. Sounds like a pretty good way to conduct yourself. However, sometimes one or all of those components can be mistaken, misguided, or misunderstood. Then we’ve got a misperception—one of the most common problems in the world of sex.

Sex on the Skin?

There used to be a time when society thought tattoos were strictly for sailors, prisoners, and bikers. Nevermind the various cultures around the world for whom ink art is a distinct tradition. Nope, tattoos were the art of rapscallions and the damned. Until they became popular, and, I dare say, socially acceptable. Everybody was getting inked and that continues to this day. A recent study suggests that a certain group of people might be perceived as having looser morals because of their tattoos.

By no means was this research exhaustive, but it seems to indicate that men believe women with tattoos are more sexually available. Yup, a butterfly tat on the lower back made dudes think they should approach these women more than those without tattoos. Nothing else set them apart. That stereotype ain’t gone yet.

Pinned By Inequality

This is a bit of a weird one to admit, but I enjoy pro-wrestling. I liked it when I was a kid, abandoned it for years, and then rediscovered it while pacing my infant daughter to sleep late at night. It is physical soap opera with a ridiculously interesting history and business analysis. It also features some very attractive folks in skimpy clothes. Some of the spectacles pro-wrestling produces are amazing. However, what is not amazing is the way that women are treated and portrayed. Scarlett Harris' analysis clearly demonstrates the double-standards that abound between male and female performers in an entertainment medium that should be without any kind of gender bias. As the sport moves further away from carny entertainment, we are starting to see some change...but it is still bowling-shoe ugly.

Mainstream V. Porn Parody

The mainstream entertainment world recently welcomed the latest superhero saga in Batman vs. Superman: Dawn of Justice to mixed reviews. Fortunately, the bizarro world of parody porn films doesn’t really care if a movie is any good or not. So, combining these two iconic characters in a sexy gay porn was a natural. These are two characters that have inspired many super powerful yearning below the utility belt. Yet, if you're wondering how well the Batman vs. Superman porn parody stacks up against the original, this analysis might help you decide which you're going to watch tonight. Evaluating casting, the fights, and gay fan service, Rob Salerno comes to his own conclusion in judging the two. What do you think?

Spewing Misinformation

Is there anything related to sex that men don't feel competitive in? From penis size to accumulating the most number of sex partners, it seems guys set standards of being the biggest, best, and most bonerific in every way - right down to the amount of and how they blow their load. This is one way porn has affected our collective sexual psyche in an interesting way. Some people really believe that a guy's orgasm should be a cannon shot of ropes of jizz.The people who believe this most are guys. Women who play with men rarely seem to care. Yet, this misunderstanding has become an obsession to be the most rootin’, tootin’ cumshooter in all the land...even if science says most guys don’t work that way. If that’s what you want to strive for, just be careful you don’t shoot your eye out.

Challenging Common Experience Comments

I think it is really important to share this story in a sex community space. I’ll admit that my first impression was one of sadness for this person describing how she has never been kissed. Then I chastised myself for jumping to this emotion. This isn’t what Joi Weaver wants from sharing with us; it isn’t pity that she is after. It is understanding. It is a compassionate re-configuring of language that presumes everybody who is an adult has become sexually active. There are some folks who choose not to pursue sex. There are others would like to, but it hasn’t happened yet.

All too often, the discussion of sex starts from a baseline of having done a, b, c, and moving on to more. Removing that presumption will remove stigma and include those who want sex. A compelling read that I greatly appreciate.

I've Heard of Books Being Called Bricks Before...

They say that there’s no such thing as too much of a good thing. It's too bad that this story isn’t about a good thing, though. It's about a charity bookstore that certainly has too much and has had enough. Given its status as one of the most popular books in the history of humankind, Fifty Shades of Grey occupies some pretty rarified air. This bad BSDM behemoth sold millions and millions of books. In one respect that is a good thing. It provided an avenue for a more open discussion of BDSM within the mainstream media. However, printing so many copies of Fifty Shades of Grey also caused a negative consequence: used book stores and charity shops cannot keep up with the amount of copies that have been donated.

However, this shop is getting creative with how they deal with this overflow. This little room would be the White Room of Papercuts and Bad Writing.