It's been hard to concentrate on other things with the Jian Ghomeshi trial taking place this past week, and now we await a verdict. And look! Lots and lots of other fascinating sex news happened!

The Beauty of Sex

I know I’ve shared the works of #deliciouslydisabled superstar Andrew Gurza in the past, but I almost wish I hadn’t. Not because those works don’t stand out, but because this retelling of his first encounter with a sex worker is one of the most beautiful, intersectional, sexy pieces of writing I have ever read. Andrew is one of our most gifted and important storytellers and knits together his disability, his queerness, and his sexual being into a most stunning read. Every single word evokes Andrew’s fears and desires - as well as what his body feels before, during and after his session with David. Honest, vulnerable, and hot as hell, this is a story I’ll never forget.

Orgasms as Trophies?

We certainly are an achievement-driven species, aren’t we? We play sports to win trophies. We hand out awards for music, literature, film - and then watch the handing out of hardware with glee. Even if we don’t win, we might be handed a “Participant” ribbon. The funny thing is, when it comes to sex, that ribbon might be the best damn prize to be awarded! Unfortunately, somewhere along the way, sex turned from a pleasurable, “just-happy-to-be-nominated” event into a results-dominated activity. As Justin Lehmiller notes, the Orgasm Imperative has gained much traction in our sexual lives - and it could be damaging. That desired result is orgasm. Those who don’t get off (or get their partner off) can be deemed a failure. That’s one recognition nobody wants.

Familial Taboo Breaking

It is time to evoke Rule No.34 of the Internet again: If it exists, there is porn of it. This time we’re discussing “fauxcest.” Lynsey G. explores the burgeoning sub-genre of fictionalized incest, a type of porn that is becoming increasingly popular, particularly among female viewers. These films are nothing new. I’m pretty sure the first porn I saw in my youth was Taboo, the first in a highly successful series of incest-themed films of the 1980s. However, now the theme has really taken off - so much so that it featured heavily in the recent AVN Awards category “Best Taboo Relations Movie.” While the portrayals are clearly fictional, this is porn that is definitely not for everybody.

Parental Sex Hacks

In a completely not related story about relating with relatives, if you’re one of those folks who has kids, here are some great ideas from Cara Sutra on how parents can maintain a great sex life. Because if you do have kids, you know that they can seriously impede romantic time with your significant other(s). It is a cruel, ironic twist that the reason the little ones are there is because of sex, but once you bring ‘em into the world, it becomes increasingly difficult to find time or energy to have more sex! I am particularly fond of the simplest of ideas: compliment your partner and maintain touch. Cara is right on track with these things that we can do anytime. They don’t even have to be sexy words or gropes, but these actions can make someone feel infinitely more desirable.

Not Gushing About Fluidity

The idea of being sexually fluid has started to take root in society, but a new survey shows that it definitely has a long way to go. Even more so when it comes to men expressing their sexual fluidity. The labels we use to describe our sexual feelings, desires, inclinations and actions are rapidly changing and evolving, but some people can’t let go of ingrained stigma. This seems to be holding for men who have or desire sex with other men. As sex between women has slowly gained a foothold as “acceptable” - recognizing that male gaze definitely contributes to this - it seems that guys gettin’ it on together still doesn’t appeal to many women. And that it would actually be a deal breaker in a relationship. Sigh.

In the Lines?

In our continuing pursuit of new ways to relax, some folks are turning back the clock to the simpler times of childhood. One of the most popular things on the comeback trail is coloring! Nowadays you can find many different types of adult coloring books, some are very intricate and ornate and others silly and fun. And, of course, some are getting sexy! This coloring book of 101 sex positions could be relaxing...or have a completely different effect! Plus, you might learn about some new ways to spend your time when you run out of crayons!