Sex Stories We Love: Calling Out Rape Culture, Pumping...Weights, & Pucker Up!

This week in Sex Stories We Love, we’re talking about stepping up, working out, and putting those lips together. Let’s also flex our creative muscles with a sexy little game down at the end. Have fun!

Calling Out Rape Culture

This is a good step. This is a man moving the conversation in the right direction. Not only did rapper Killer Mike stand up for women when he found out his PR rep had been accused of multiple sexual assaults, but he clearly made the point that men have to call out other men to end sexual violence. Not just any men, but even your friends. Men are taught from the earliest of ages to honor friendship above anything else. Fuck that stupid “bros before hos” bullshit mentality. Whether you’re in the music industry, sports, accounting, or politics, a friend is not a friend to anybody if he commits violence against women. I really appreciate someone with a public forum taking this discussion in a direction it sorely needs to go.

Pumping...Weights?

I’ll admit to a little bit of a fetish here that makes me totally relate to this next story: the gym can be one of the sexiest places around. Folks in the UK seem to concur, according to a new survey that shows that 25% of people have had sex at the place where they work out. It seems they’ve been getting their adrenaline going in other ways besides the weights and bikes. As noted, it makes sense that people might be more prone to arousal when their blood is flowing and pheromones are racing through the air. And gym clothes, oh my! Some of the gear out there is designed to impress and show off what you’ve been building. Physical activity can be an inspiring act, in more ways than one! (Read more in Skip the Gym, Get in Bed: The 7 Health Benefits of Sex.)

Turning the Page

Could this be a dawning of a new age? Perhaps the old boys' club of porn is shuffling out the door. In an age when print periodicals are struggling to remain viable, it is no surprise that Penthouse magazine is mothballing its print edition in favor of digital delivery. With the company struggling financially, it makes sense because print production is expensive. At the same time, it is refreshing to hear that Jacques, a feminist erotic magazine, is thriving. With defined values of body acceptance, diversity, and empowerment, founder Danielle Leder-Hettera proves that there is a market out there for hot erotic photography in magazine form - it just needs social value.

For the Pleasure, Not the Performance

What a refreshing view on mutual pleasure! Malin James explores the "feedback loop" of cock sucking and offers an eloquent and reasoned rebuttal to all of those advice columns that put fellatio (and other sex) into the performative sphere. When you think of sex as something to perform on someone, because they’ll like it, you take away the idea that sex is a joined activity, where the two (or more) of you form a little community of pleasure. This disconnect doesn’t just apply to cock sucking, but this particular act sure is the one that's most frequently cited. Suck cock because you like it and derive pleasure from it. That will be the most important feeling to resonate back to the person receiving the sensation. Every little tongue twist or lip move is just window dressing.

Pucker Up!

For many, it all begins with a kiss. Our sexual awakening, our sexual relationships, our beginnings of days, and our ends of days. Kissing can frame our hook-ups and the loves of our lives. This fascinating study of the different kinds of kisses relative to times in our lives and how we react to them reflects both the importance - and sometimes neglected value - of kisses as we move through both our daily and our full lives. A truly striking note is the importance of kissing. To read that many more people would rather give up receiving oral sex than give up kissing speaks to the need many of us feel to be connected in a way that can convey sex but at the same time can be quick and casual.

Sex Position Showdown

Let’s make 2016 the year of inventing new sex positions with wildly imaginative descriptions. Bonus points if you include visuals. Mega bonus points if you can add in a gif. You’ll pretty much win if you share a video, but that might asking a bit much. Your example in this endeavor is the awesome Eiffel 69 created by Kate Knibbs. This masterpiece of carnal construction is not only ridiculous in description but wholly possible in reality. That’s what we’re going for folks. Can you raise the bar? Will yours involve a bar?