This week’s edition of Sex Stories We Love is all about how we tell stories, share information, and experience the world of sex through words. Check it out!

What's in a Name?

It would be an understatement to say that sex blogging has taken off. It blew a load right out into the stratosphere years ago! Sex blogging can be a hobby, a career, and everything in between. What sex blogging can also be is a great, big decision. While it is respected in some circles, writing about sex can be frowned upon in others, which makes the decision on whether or not to attach your legal name and other personal details to your sex blog a big deal. If you are currently considering this, check out what superstar sex blogger Cara Sutra has to say on her choices of self-disclosure on her wildly successful and respected sex blog. There are definite pros and cons. Personally speaking, I’ve always used my legal name because I have loved the bits of glory I’ve received ... but I have also felt the sting of sex blog stigma. Deep thinking required.

Finding Furries

Encountering a new sex-related culture can definitely be a challenging experience, and anyone who moves within the sex community has probably felt the jab of judgement when an outsider first learns of your world. It can hurt. It can enrage. It can cause people to retreat from the activities, friends, and the community they need and desire. Nobody likes to be shamed. However, it is greatly encouraging when you come across a story like this of an unassuming couple who end up staying in the same hotel as a furries convention. While they readily admit to being a little uneasy and judgmental at first, it is quite lovely to read how they take the time to talk to, learn about, and eventually thoroughly enjoy their time spent among people with a very specific sexual culture. The open mindedness with which they approach people is quite refreshing. I hope we continue to hear similar stories!

Remembering Holly Woodlawn

It would be too easy to say that the trans community lost a legend with the recent passing of Holly Woodlawn. It would be too easy to say the art and performance world lost her. We need to remember, or learn about, Holly Woodlawn as an important cultural figure for every body. In her own work, Holly was an alt cinema star as part of Andy Warhol’s Factory. She was an amazing performer and definitely brought much recognition of transgender folks to the public at large through her own work, and also as a muse. If you aren’t already familiar with Lou Reed’s seminal classic “Take a Walk on the Wild Side,” Holly Woodlawn’s story is immortalized in the opening of the song and for many who have heard it over the past 40 years, it is potentially their first encounter with the idea that someone can transition. So, we must remember Holly Woodlawn as a pioneer, an icon, and so much more.

This Isn't About Breasts

While we bask in some really amazing sex storytelling, we must also take a look at something that misses the mark. You know, perspective. Articles and features relating to sex are appearing in more and more mainstream publications and sites, but I hope they get better representation than this piece on the reasons for women's breast sizes increasing. The content itself, related to studies that show there is a pretty dramatic change in women’s bodies, is good stuff and definitely worth considering. Yet, the presentation is unfortunate. To begin, the opening image shows no diversity; so, we can only assume that all British women are blonde and white. Then, the writer goes into some stereotypical yammer about how most dudes love big breasts. Were I not truly interested in the info part, I’d have left this article long beforehand. Writers, especially those directing their work at men, have to do better.

Accepting Sex Toys

Something that has definitely gotten better is the portrayal of sex toys on television. Despite the popularity of dildos and vibrators in the bedroom, as Steven Blum notes, the only depictions we really ever saw of our pleasure products were cringe-worthy and shame-inducing. Toys were the butt of jokes and surprises meant to bring laughs or judgement on the characters who had them. Greater social acceptance has lead to better portrayals of sex toys. Maybe story writers have finally caught up to the fact that, for so many people, sex toys are just a part of everyday life - and an important part at that! There is no shame in owning them, playing with them, or talking about them. (Read more about that in 10 Ways Sex Toys Can Help You Drop Sexual Guilt and Shame.)

Fucking Funny!

Let’s not forget that one of the best ways to talk or write about sex is through humor. So, I’d like to leave you with some laughs. These random tweets about sex truly are funny!