ANAL SEX
Guys, Here's How to Hit the P-Spot Using a Toy
Published: JULY 15, 2019
| Updated: MAY 6, 2022
Hitting your p-spot can result in a mind-blowing prostate orgasm, and some of the latest toys offer an almost fool-proof way to get there.
So, you've read or heard about the magical orgasmic qualities of prostate massage, and want to try it out. Maybe you’ve tried it with a partner and are looking to enjoy it on your own.
Or maybe you've never tried prostate massage and are hoping to do a little exploring. Prostate toys are one of the simplest - and most satisfying - ways to do it.
Here we'll look at prostate stimulators and how to use them in the best, most orgasmic way possible.
Getting Started With a Prostate Massage
The first and most important thing when it comes to any anal play is to relax. Do whatever you can to relax when you start this journey of self exploration; a nice hot bath, self-massage, mood music, etc. This is especially important if this is new for you. Clean yourself thoroughly, especially around the anus. And if you have issues back there, such as anal fissures or hemorrhoids, you should probably put your play on hold until that clears up.
Arousal is the next step. You want to get prepared for two things at this point: masturbation and anal play. Getting aroused is key to to not only stimulating yourself, but it also assists with locating the prostate. You will need a few things to assist you. These items include a towel to lie on, something to help set the mood, such as porn, some silicone lube, and a prostate toy. I like Aneros products, the nJoy Pfun Plug, or the HUGO by LELO.
Now it's time to start getting aroused. Watch some porn or start doing whatever sexually stimulates you. Get an erection and get yourself aroused to about a level of six (assuming 10 is orgasm). Now, get out the lube and put some liberally around and in your anus with a well lubed finger. Start inserting your finger slowly to the second knuckle and begin masturbating again. Pull the finger that is in your backdoor out, and re-apply some lube. Keep masturbating and put your finger back inside. Insert your finger deeper until you feel a little rough lump around three inches inside your rectum and up towards the root of the penis. This is your prostate. You are now on your way to prostate massage with a toy.
The Prostate
Before you go any further with technique, let’s talk about the prostate itself. The prostate is located between the bladder and the root of the penis. It wraps around the urethra like a donut. This paraurethral gland is walnut-sized in younger men and plum-sized in older men. The prostate gland’s primary function is as a paraurethral gland that produces fluid for semen. This fluid has an alkaline pH that counteracts the acidity of the vaginal secretions, which helps nourish and protect sperm. Massaging the prostate is very pleasurable for many people, but it has an added benefit: It can reduce your rate of getting prostate cancer. When you have a prostate orgasm, it actually oxygenates the prostatic fluid. This causes you to expel biological, fungal, and viral contaminants that build up in the prostate gland over time. Ridding your body of these toxins also increases lymphocyte production. This is believed to help your body fight off cancers.
Prostate stimulation can occur in two places, external and internal. Externally, the prostate can be stimulated with fingers or a high intensity vibrator. The external prostate is located through the perineum (between the scrotum and the anus) about one inch away from the anus. Press firmly in towards the anus and up towards the root of the penis. You will feel a pleasant pressure as you press in towards the anus without going in. Rub this area firmly in circles until you build an intense pressure that builds as your orgasm grows. The prostate area is the same spot we will be stimulating later with a toy. Repeat the circular pressure and use the other hand to masturbate. When you are almost to orgasm, increase the pressure until you cum. This type of orgasm feels good, but it can actually get better. Having your prostate milked from the inside is even more amazing.
When you perform an internal prostate massage, you need to be fully aroused. Start by inserting your fingers or an object until you reach three inches inside your rectum. Remember to reach up toward the penis. You will feel for a small ridged spot about the size of a kidney bean. You can locate the same spot with a toy after you use your fingers to locate the prostate first. Identify exactly where you feel the pressure of the prostate. This way you can find it again with a prostate toy.