So, you've read or heard about the magical orgasmic qualities of prostate massage, and want to try it out. Maybe you’ve tried it with a partner and are looking to enjoy it on your own. Or maybe you've never tried prostate massage and are hoping to do a little exploring. Prostate toys are one of the simplest - and most satisfying - ways to do it. Here we'll look at prostate stimulators and how to use them in the best, most orgasmic way possible. (For some background reading, check out The 5 Rules of Anal Play for Straight Men.)

Getting Started With a Prostate Massage

The first and most important thing when it comes to any anal play is to relax. Do whatever you can to relax when you start this journey of self exploration; a nice hot bath, self-massage, mood music, etc. This is especially important if this is new for you. Clean yourself thoroughly, especially around the anus. And if you have issues back there, such as anal fissures or hemorrhoids, you should probably put your play on hold until that clears up.

Arousal is the next step. You want to get prepared for two things at this point: masturbation and anal play. Getting aroused is key to to not only stimulating yourself, but it also assists with locating the prostate. You will need a few things to assist you. These items include a towel to lie on, something to help set the mood, such as porn, some silicone lube, and a prostate toy. I like Aneros products, the nJoy Pfun Plug, or the new Hugo by LELO.

Now it's time to start getting aroused. Watch some porn or start doing whatever sexually stimulates you. Get an erection and get yourself aroused to about a level of six (assuming 10 is orgasm). Now, get out the lube and put some liberally around and in your anus with a well lubed finger. Start inserting your finger slowly to the second knuckle and begin masturbating again. Pull the finger that is in your backdoor out, and re-apply some lube. Keep masturbating and put your finger back inside. Insert your finger deeper until you feel a little rough lump around three inches inside your rectum and up towards the root of the penis. This is your prostate. You are now on your way to prostate massage with a toy.

The Prostate

Before you go any further with technique, let’s talk about the prostate itself. The prostate is located between the bladder and the root of the penis. It wraps around the urethra like a donut. This paraurethral gland is walnut-sized in younger men and plum-sized in older men. The prostate gland’s primary function is as a paraurethral gland that produces fluid for semen. This fluid has an alkaline pH that counteracts the acidity of the vaginal secretions, which helps nourish and protect sperm. Massaging the prostate is very pleasurable for many people, but it has an added benefit: It can reduce your rate of getting prostate cancer. When you have a prostate orgasm, it actually oxygenates the prostatic fluid. This causes you to expel biological, fungal, and viral contaminants that build up in the prostate gland over time. Ridding your body of these toxins also increases lymphocyte production. This is believed to help your body fight off cancers.

Prostate stimulation can occur in two places, external and internal. Externally, the prostate can be stimulated with fingers or a high intensity vibrator. The external prostate is located through the perineum (between the scrotum and the anus) about one inch away from the anus. Press firmly in towards the anus and up towards the root of the penis. You will feel a pleasant pressure as you press in towards the anus without going in. Rub this area firmly in circles until you build an intense pressure that builds as your orgasm grows. The prostate area is the same spot we will be stimulating later with a toy. Repeat the circular pressure and use the other hand to masturbate. When you are almost to orgasm, increase the pressure until you cum. This type of orgasm feels good, but it can actually get better. Having your prostate milked from the inside is even more amazing.

When you perform an internal prostate massage, you need to be fully aroused. Start by inserting your fingers or an object until you reach three inches inside your rectum. Remember to reach up toward the penis. You will feel for a small ridged spot about the size of a kidney bean. You can locate the same spot with a toy after you use your fingers to locate the prostate first. Identify exactly where you feel the pressure of the prostate. This way you can find it again with a prostate toy.

How to Stimulate Your Prostate With a Toy

Now that you know where your prostate is and what it feels like, it’s time to stimulate the prostate with a toy. At this point, you should be relaxed. You should be aroused. You have used your finger to locate your prostate and get warmed up. That means it’s time to get aroused again.

Begin masturbating while rubbing your external prostate with your vibrator set to a high setting. When you're fully erect, lube up your anus and your toy with silicone lube. Slowly insert the toy in and up towards your prostate. As long as you are sexually aroused, the prostate will engorge.

Move the toy up toward the spot where you felt the pressure earlier when you used your finger to find your prostate. Rest the toy on the prostate and if the toy vibrates, turn it on. Begin masturbating again. Take your time. Explore the prostate with different sorts of vibrations, pressure, and motions. Keep masturbating and using the toy until you are ready to cum.

At the moment you are beyond stopping, put increasing pressure on the prostate. Use a circular motion until you cum. You will have an amazing orgasm and an increased amount of ejaculate by as much as two times.

There are many ways to stimulate the prostate, but adding a toy into the mix only increases the orgasm and gives you variety. Prostate massage is a totally new sensation that can create one of the best orgasms you've ever had. It's also good for your health. So, what are you waiting for?

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