No one has to tell us that sex feels good, but have you stopped to think about why it does? Is the pleasure of sex something you should discover on your own or call in the experts? This week’s Sex Stories We Love has no shortage of stories to satiate the most curious sexual minds.

The Debate on Sex Addiction Continues

Even though the American Psychiatric Association does not recognize sex and porn addictions as official diagnoses, the war wages on about the validity of problems and behaviors associated with sex in the professional mental health community. Addiction.com brought two proponents of both sides, Robert Weiss and Dr. David Ley, to back up research and claims how problem sexual behaviors and impulses may fit the psychological standards of addiction. Be warned that it’s some pretty heavy reading, but worth spending some time soaking in their points of view before throwing around the word “addiction” and finding and applying the proper form of treatment based on whatever problems people claim to experience.

Are the Butts of Men and Women Really That Different?

How many times have we heard someone (or maybe ourselves) say, “I’d tap that ass”? If you’re blindfolded, does it really matter if that butt belongs to a man or a woman? The Gaily Grind pulled a YouTube video to show a couple of blindfolded butt lovers grope some back ends to try to guess if they belonged to men or women. It’s a good thing that all of the participants had a sense of humor, not just because taking part in this video required some extreme sexual confidence, but also because some of the comments the tush testers made.

In Many Ways, Men's Butts Are Different

It’s only been in the past few years that straight men have been discovering and accepting the delights of anal sex. But why does it feel good? Donna Turner in Volonte turned to sex experts like Charlie Glickman, Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, and Sunny Megatron to talk about prostate orgasms and give readers a great anatomy lesson on the prostate to explain how it works, both functionally and pleasurably. If only all anatomy classes in school were taught this well! It’s a must-read for all men, gay or straight, as well as women, whether they’re anal sex enthusiasts or new to exploring male anal play.

Reasons You Never Expected About Why Men Like to Touch Their Junk

It’s no secret that men touch their penises to enjoy sexual self-pleasure. However, there are other reasons why the penis makes a man a man in behaviors that have nothing to do with sexual pleasure. In Men’s Health, Cindy Kuzma says that men often reach down below the belt in order to feel safe, comfortable, calm, and dominant whether they’re on the baseball field, in the boardroom, or chilling on the couch.

How Not to Play Doctor

Playing doctor or having a medical fetish are fun and fine things, but one New Jersey couple took things way too far back in May 2011. A 38-year-old woman pleaded guilty to the death of her 22-year old partner after she injected his penis with silicone. The woman was not a medical doctor and was not licensed to administer the injection. The woman is facing sentencing or could be deported to Jamaica.

How to Be a Dominant in 10 Minutes

There can’t be enough stories and advice out there that demonstrate the differences between BDSM and abuse, but what does it take to be a good Dominant partner? Kayla Lords, who has expanded her A Sexual Being blog into podcasts, whittles down every best positive and proactive tip in 10 minutes in one of her latest podcasts, What Does a Good Dominant Look Like? Of course, it doesn’t take 10 minutes to learn how to be a Dominant, but it does take, as Kayla puts it, time, patience, and a willingness to learn, listen, and make changes.

What Makes a Good Love Song?

A great love song or sexy song isn’t completely all about the lyrics. As sex therapist Moushumi Ghose put it in an article about the kinds of music you should listen to while having sex in Mic, "Sexuality has a rhythmic quality to it. The way that we make love or the way we are in an intimate setting probably mimics greatly the type of music we like and inspires us in that moment.”

That same article also points to a study that was done at McGill University that found that music stimulates the same dopamine-producing portions of the brain activated during sex. Basically, it’s why music and sex makes us feel good. Now that we’ve justified and understand what making sweet music together is all about, what are the sexiest songs to have sex to? Most people and lists will automatically point to Peggy Lee’s “Fever” and Marvin Gaye’s “Let’s Get it On” and “Sexual Healing”, which are on this list of The 30 Sexiest Songs of Our Lifetime in Purple Clover. However, there are a few unexpected libidinous lullabies on that list that might catch even the biggest music lovers off guard.

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