A No-Fuss Guide to Video Sex

Social distancing. It's a term we hear a lot lately. It's normally joined with self-isolation and 'flatten the curve.' The pandemic has changed so many aspects of our lives, including our sex lives.

Many of us now find ourselves in long-distance relationships. Even if that distance is just across town, many of us have to stay separate from our partners, for their safety and our own.

That being said, social distancing doesn't mean we can't still have a rewarding sex life. It just means we have to figure out new ways of doing things. New ways of finding connections and pleasure.

There have been many attempts made by long-distance couples to solve the no-sex dilemma that many of us are now facing. It used to be dirty love letters, then it was phone sex (which is still a fun activity you should definitely consider!). There has been sexting, erotic emails, dirty pictures.

Clearly, some of us still can’t keep our hands off each other - at least mentally - even when we're apart. But for some, just hearing or reading those dirty words hardly compares to the real thing. Fortunately, we have a solution: video sex.

If you haven't tried it yourself yet, chances are you know someone else who has. Whoever you are, we're here to give you some simple tips. The rest, of course, is up to you.

1. Make It a Date

There's no need for elaborate planning, but at least choose a time when both of you will have at least an hour or so to relax without interruptions from a roommate, work or family.

It might not bother everyone to have people moving around in the house during an intimate moment, but if you know it’ll bother you, take that into account and make sure you have a space to be alone.

Most importantly, make sure to close and lock your door - unless, perhaps, you’re involved in some sort of voyeuristic fantasy, but that’s for another article.

Read: Double the Fun! 5 Hot Tips on Self Touch for Two

2. Spruce Up

Don't just roll up in sweat pants and weekend hair; prepare for video sex as if you were getting ready for a night of romance in real life. Dress in something that makes you feel good or something you know your partner will like.

As with any other type of sex, if you want to have video sex, you have to feel sexy. If you don’t like the way you look on video, either minimize your screen so you won’t be as self-conscious, or adjust the lighting.

If possible, avoid fluorescent lighting and go with something with more a yellow tone. Feel free to be vain - you’re on camera, after all. You want to look the best you can to feel the best you can.

Read: 6 Ways to Feel Better about Your Body in Bed

3. Get Comfortable

Know your body. If you’re not in the habit of masturbating regularly, definitely give that a go first. Note also that video sex is more than masturbating - having someone watch you do it adds a whole new level.

It can be arousing, but it can also be daunting, so make sure you know exactly what gets you off in a physical way before you try it on camera.