Did you have sex on your wedding night? If you didn't, you might feel embarrassed to say so. After all, wedding night sex is a tradition ... or, that's what we hear anyway. Some even assert that your first marital giggity is indicative of the quality of your entire marriage. A poll of couples in the U.K. showed that more than half of couples did not engage in sex on their first night as man and wife. Reasons cited include many of the same reasons people prefer to skip sex on any other night - feeling drunk, stressed, tired, or just not being in the mood. So what's with all the pressure to have outstanding wedding night sex? And is it even reasonable?
Wedding night sex has been viewed very differently depending on what part of the world you're in, and in what time period. In medieval feudal systems it was customary to offer the local lord the opportunity to bed a new wife before her husband does. You know, because women were property and virginity was the big prize. In modern Bengali culture, sex is forbidden for at least two nights after the wedding ceremony, I guess to make sure no one changes their mind. In Mario Puzo's novel "The Godfather," we learned that the traditional Italian custom was for the mother-in-law to accompany the couple to their honeymoon destination so that the mother can answer any questions the new bride has in case her, um …, deflowering doesn't go well. In that instance, Michael Corleone's new bride packs her mother up at dawn and sends her home. The post-wedding sex was just that awesome.