We Accosted Sex Experts With a Mic - Here's What They Said
by KINKLY STAFF
Published: OCTOBER 3, 2013
| Updated: NOVEMBER 7, 2018
If you want an awesome sex tip, just ask an expert.
This past weekend, Kinkly was at Catalyst Con West in Los Angeles, where sex bloggers, sex educators, activists, scholars and other sexy people go to geek out. We learned a lot, and we met a lot of very knowledgeable, interesting and, of course, passionate, people (including some of our own writers!). Would you expect anything less from a sex conference? We didn’t waste the opportunity to collect a sex tip from everyone we could. Unfortunately, we couldn’t get to everyone. If you were at the conference and didn’t have the pleasure of being accosted by our microphones, tweet us your tip and we’ll add it to the list.
Confidence is the ultimate aphrodisiac, because if you feel sexy, everyone else will find you sexy as well.
Masturbate. Pay attention to what happens when you do. That allows you more understanding of your own specific eroticism.
Use lube. No, really. A lot of people think that needing lube is a sign that a woman isn't turned on, but it's a lot more complex than that. Some women need lube at different points in their menstrual cycle. Some need it because of a medication. (Did you know that Sudafed can cause vaginal dryness?) Lube makes condoms more effective. And it makes sex feel a lot better.
The most under-rated aspect of good sex is comfort. If you feel uncomfortable with someone, you are not taking your pants off with them. If you’re interested in somebody, you want to make sure they feel safe and comfortable. That is absolutely the first step to attraction.
Whatever you do to your partner, do it voraciously and with a lot of enthusiasm. There’s nothing that’s a bigger turn-on than enjoying what you’re doing.
Dump him. Buy a Mona 2.
Seriously, though - I believe everyone should try sex toys. And if your partner still subscribes to the unfortunate belief that toys are threatening, school them. Sex toys can enhance sex and teach you things you never knew about yourself. The LELO Mona 2 is just such a solid vibrator -it's strong, rechargeable, beautiful, and highly versatile. Therefore, it's become the spokestoy for my crusade.
Don't have sex with anyone you wouldn't want to be.
Oil based lube is not something to be afraid of and it is a friend of the butt.
