When it comes to anal sex, it's impossible to over-emphasize the necessary components for a safe, pleasurable time: communication, relaxation and lubrication (lots of it!). That said, every attempt is different, so try not to put too much pressure on each session. It takes time to develop the comfort and experience necessary for dealing with the back door. That said, little adjustments can make a huge difference in terms of both comfort and pleasure. Here are six sex positions for better anal sex. Add patience, vocal communication and time. Enjoy! (For more position ideas, check out Playing "Tetris" Sex."
Missionary ... Served Extra HotWhen your back is curved, the rectum becomes straightened. This is good news for anal sex, because it makes penetration more comfortable. In this modified missionary position, the receiver's legs legs can be bent and held, or rested on the giver’s shoulders; they can even be curved around the giver’s waist. If the receivers hold their knees to their chest, it can put extra pressure on their prostate/G-spot, which might feel really good, although that position might become uncomfortable rather quickly.
The Little Life PositionDoggy-style is a classic anal sex position, but in this variation, the receiver's head and upper body are lowered onto the bed. Lying on some pillows (or, better yet, a sex Wedge, like Liberator's) will help support the receiver during anal sex. At this angle, stimulation of the prostate and G-spot is enhanced, as these are closer to the surface in this position. Be careful though: This position doesn’t allow for communication via body language, so be sure to be vocal about what feels good and what doesn't.
Models shown using a Liberator Wedge.
Flat-Out FunIn this cozy position, prop the receiver’s ass up with a pillow, especially if you sit and straddle him or her when you enter from behind. You could also lie flat on top to enter the receiver. This position allows for deeper penetration. The one downside is that you cannot see the other person’s face while having sex. Having a mirror nearby might help. (Remember that anal sex required lots and lots of lube! Keep things clean with a plush throe that's designed to slurp up lubes and lotions.)
Top SwapHaving the receiver on top gives this partner full control of the speed and depth of penetration - a real bonus in anal sex. The top can either straddle and face the giver, or face away from the giver. Facing each other gives the benefits of communicating as well as kissing and touching erogenous zones. When the receiver faces away, they can stimulate their own genitals, but communication might be lacking in this position. However, facing away from each other might also feel provide better alignment depending on the curve of the dildo or penis being used.
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Simple, Sexy SpooningThis is a great position in that it is highly flexible, comfortable and accommodating to couples of varying sizes. Spooning is great for anal sex when there is no rush to end quickly. A couple can face each other or face in the same direction while performing anal sex in this position. The penetration is shallower here, but that's balanced out by the fact that both partners have easy access to stimulate and tease one another.
Bend-Over BlissHave the receiver stand, bent over, while holding onto furniture or the wall to be entered from behind. Do not fear using furniture to accommodate varying heights here (isn't that what bedroom furniture is for?). While this has a classic, porn feel to it, being taken from behind while bending over has a tendency to make the receiver quite literally feel weak in the knees - in a good way.
Final Tip: Get CreativeAs with any kind of sex, finding ways to be creative and adventurous go a long way. Using props and furniture, toys, hands, tongues and genitals in different combinations can be really fun and rewarding for both partners. Just remember that with anal sex, it's important to be patient and communicative. Real pleasure is worth the effort.
If you're into anal sex - or want to be - there are two standout resources that can help make it both as safe and pleasurable as possible. Check out "The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure" by Charlie Glickman & Aislinn Emirzian, and "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women" by Tristan Taormino.