11 Creative Ways to Have More Sex During the Holidays
If you’re visiting friends or family over the holidays, here are a few ideas on how to maintain intimacy without landing on the naughty list.
The holiday season is here, which means it’s time for festive sex and hometown hook-ups! A recent survey of 2,000 people conducted by EdenFantasys found that half of Americans admit they're more frisky during the merriest time of the year.
“According to the National Center for Health Statistics, months August and September have the most births each year,” said Fred Petrenko of EdenFantasys. “This corresponds perfectly with our findings of Americans being quite frisky during the holidays. We all love winter cuddles.”
So, if you’re visiting friends or family, how do you sneak in a little sexy time? Here are a few ideas on how to maintain intimacy without landing on the naughty list:
1. Book a Hotel Room
“If you can get a hotel room, you need to get a hotel room,” says Tasha Reign, adult film star and producer. "It gives you the ability to show up and be present with your family, but when you leave, you can engage in much-needed intimacy with your partner."
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2. Be Respectful
While the risk of getting caught may be hot, you probably don’t want Aunt Bea to walk in on you getting busy. “Don't have sex anywhere you're going to get caught or anywhere that would be considered highly inappropriate,” says certified sex coach, sexologist and author Gigi Engle.
“Some experts may tell you the garage or the pantry are fun for a quickie, but I honestly think that's highly disrespectful. There are no hard and fast rules. Just be respectful of your family and have sex in places that are private.”
3. Keep it Simple
“Now is not the time to get super creative with the sex moves and kink,” says Engle. “You're having sex because it feels good, keeps you sane when your family is being super stressful and gives you a chance to be close to your partner.
"Nurture your pair-bond and enjoy your time together, but save the wild sex adventures for when you get home in a few days. They'll still be waiting for you. I promise.”
This advice works for sex toys too. You probably don't want to cart along your whole array of toys to your relative's house. Choose a vibrator that you can use in a variety of different ways!
4. Bring Be-quiet Props
“Maybe bring a gag or something that will stop you from being loud. It can even be a mask if you want to get really kinky,” suggests Reign. “But definitely a gag is hot. Or some kind of scarf, or something that reminds you not to make crazy noises. I feel like when you have sex, and you're in the moment, you're making crazy noises, sometimes you almost make louder noises when you're trying not to. So, you have to implement a tool to make sure sex isn't loud.”
Do whatever you have to do to keep sex sounds to a dull roar and not offend family members.
When it comes to toys, make sure you choose quiet ones as well! Rave by We-Vibe is a deliciously powerful G-spot vibrator that also happens to be whisper quiet! You won't have to worry about Aunt Bea hearing a weird buzzing sound and coming to investigate it.
5. Take Advantage of Your Family's Schedule
If you are sharing a living space, and especially a room, work around other people’s schedules. As Engle shares, “This doesn't mean telling your sister that you and your partner are going to have sex, per se, but more like knowing where she is before you get it on. If she's gone Christmas shopping or food shopping, you know you're in the clear for a little bit.”
If you know your relatives are going to be gone ahead of time, you can start the teasing early with a wearable sex toy, like the panty vibrator Moxie by We-Vibe. By the time the front door clicks shut, Moxie will have you aching to get straight to it.
6. Have a Quickie
“Quickies are a great option and don't just have to wait until everyone finally goes to sleep,” says sexpert Kayla Lords. “Couples may want to run ‘last-minute’ errands together, drive to a secluded area, and have quick sex in the car.”
Or, Lords suggests, plan a family outing for the extended family and kids, but take separate vehicles. “They'll probably never notice that you're 20 minutes late – but you'll know you waited until everyone left and got it on as fast as possible before you left the house,” says Lords.
To make your quickies even more exciting, slip a small, incognito sex toy, like the Tango by We-Vibe, into your bag. This pocket-sized, powerful vibrator is perfect to keep nearby for whenever you get the opportunity for a little pleasure time with your partner.