Why I Lived & Loved Sex Work - and Why I'm Now Ready to Quit

By any account, Goddess Venus took the fetish erotica scene by storm. Within only a year of promoting herself as a pro fetish model and online Dominatrix, this 20-something New Yorker was already jetting off to the kink industry's swankiest events and gracing the ballots of major adult industry award show nominations.

One look at Venus's bustling social media pages and video clip sales proves that her popularity is still rocketing her toward sex work success, but at the peak of her career, she's ready to put down the web cam for good.

Photo: Goddess Venus

Sex work has been at the forefront of media coverage this year, for better and for worse for those in the field. We've seen sex workers stripped of their rights to safely conduct business online and even collect payment for their hard-earned labor through FOSTA/SESTA laws. On the other hand, sex workers have also experienced an outpouring of support from sex educators and social justice activists, human rights organizations like the Woodhull Freedom Foundation, and even some mainstream journalists, who are all eager to set the record straight about this diverse, vast and widely misunderstood profession.

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Although the mental and physical demands of selling one's image and time as an erotic fantasy are truly unique to this career path, sex work is a lot like any other job – and yet nothing like any other job. Like Goddess Venus, many porn stars, fetish models, and escorts enter the industry with excitement and passion and, much like any other sort of employment, many leave when the bad outweighs the good. However, it's obviously much harder to transition out of sex work thanks to a laundry list of ancient societal views that unfairly peg sex workers as unintelligent, socially broken, or simply incapable of doing anything else.

Goddess Venus has been vocal about her support for sex workers while openly and honestly acknowledging the industry's patriarchal problems, and her own difficulties in deciding to make her eventual exit – something many sex workers dare not share out of fear that they'll hurt their own cause or even lose clients. According to Venus, it's also not exactly easy to face the harsh truth that having men bombard you with masturbation fantasies 24/7 isn't all dollar signs and roses.

Goddess Venus' experiences and subsequent enlightenment are proof that sex workers deserve everything society says they shouldn't: safety, human rights, fair labor practices and credit for being smart, savvy, multi-skilled entrepreneurs. Most of all, they should be able to start new lives and careers just like any 9-to-5 worker. I interviewed Goddess Venus about her career in sex work - and her planned exit.

Colleen Godin: What specific kind of sex work do you specialize in, and how did you decide on this particular niche?

Goddess Venus: I mostly make female domination and fetish clips and do online financial domination. I also do domination via cam, Skype, text, and Niteflirt phone calls.

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CG: What inspired you to become an online sex worker?

GV: I started as a video performance artist, but that wasn’t very lucrative. I'd heard of women doing financial domination on Twitter and thought I’d give it a try. The first financial dominatrix I was exposed to was Mix Trix. I watched her Vice documentary and was so intrigued. Fortunately, I’m pretty social media savvy, so I quickly gained a following and my business was instantly lucrative. I saw the women at the top of my niche also produced clips. As I am skilled with video performance and production, I naturally pivoted in that direction.

CG: What did you love most about your job when you first began, and what do you still love now?

GV: I loved the flexibility it gave me. I actually work more now than when I had an office job, but I like that I’m in complete control of my business, time and success. I really appreciate being able to wake up whenever I want. I sleep a lot because of one of the medications I take, so not having to wake up at a particular time every day really helps me from feeling too exhausted all the time. I’ve found that a lot of sex workers live with disabilities and/or mental illness. Many of us choose this work because of the flexibility it gives us.

CG: What are some unique hurdles you've encountered during your sex work career, either when working with production companies or taking web clients?

GV: I’ve never worked with a studio before. I’ve chosen not to because I like having full control over my work. My biggest issue with online clients has been chargebacks. I’ve had guys change the moment they cum and issue chargebacks on services. This has resulted in me getting a lot of my payment processors closed, such as PayPal, Google Wallet and Square Cash. I’ve also had chargebacks on clip sales. It leaves me feeling completely scammed and irritated. The banks and credit card companies always choose the customer over us. I hate it.

Besides that I’ve been stalked and doxxed. Doxxing is when someone shares your personal information. I had a guy post my legal name and address online. That was pretty scary.

CG: You’ve talked extensively about both loving sex work and yet feeling extremely burned out fairly early on in your career. Was there a particular turning point between these two emotions?

GV: I didn’t feel burned out early on. I started feeling burned out this year. I spent at least half of my month all year traveling for work. I went to a lot of conferences and was producing so much content. I shot probably 70 clips in 5 days in April and was going to a lot of events. I also work basically from the time I wake up until I go to sleep. Working is kind of an addiction for me. I just want to keep going and my work is never ending. I’m not very skilled with work-life balance.

Photo: Goddess Venus