The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Milking

Perhaps you’ve recently heard the terms “prostate massage” or “prostate milking.” The concept is moving out of porn and becoming more widely known, and for good reason. The prostate has the potential to be a source of great pleasure for partnered or solo play.

So what, exactly is prostate milking? And how can you give this a try? Here's your ultimate guide.

So, What is Prostate Milking, Anyway?

Prostate milking simply refers to prostate massage. It gets its name because the goal here may be orgasm - and ejaculation.The name may also come from the fact that the prostate gland is responsible for producing a milky seminal fluid that makes up a portion of ejaculate.

It is alkaline and is designed to help sperm survive in the acidic environment of the vagina. The prostate gland surrounds the base of the urethra and is found below the bladder but above the rectum. It is reached via the anus, and is found 2-3 inches inside the rectal cavity, on the front side of the body.

The prostate may feel like a small lump, but tends to swell with arousal. Once you start gently massaging it, you are milking a prostate!

Getting Started with Prostate Massage

Like with many forms of play, it can be a good idea to get to know your own body first. This can help with building comfort, and will make it easier to tell a partner what you like. Before play, make sure you’ve set aside enough time to explore and enjoy. Consider starting with a bath or shower to relax and to address any concerns about hygiene.

Anal play is the most pleasurable when you’re relaxed, so anything you can do to set your mind at ease is a great help.

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Depending on your flexibility, penetrating yourself with your fingers can be a little tricky. It’s a great idea to just start with external massage. This warms up the area and gets you used to receiving touch. When you’re doing this, you want to make sure your hands are freshly washed, and nails neatly trimmed and filed.

Any scratches or tears in the anal area or rectum can become infected. Wearing gloves for anal play can be the safest option. You also want to make sure you’re never playing dry. Use a body-safe lube that you like.

Read: Your Guide to Choosing (and Using) a Prostate Massager

Finding Your Prostate

So how do you find your prostate? All bodies are different, but the prostate can generally be reached 2-3 inches inside the rectum, pressing up towards the front/stomach. It’s often described as being roughly the size of a walnut. For some people, you’ll be able to feel the structure at any time. For others, it will only become pronounced right before and during an orgasm.

Once you’re familiar with what feels good, you’ll be able to share this information with a partner, and guide them to finding the right spot when they’re inside you. You’ll also want to know exactly what kind of stimulation feels good. For some, the prostate is very sensitive and very light touches are best.

For others, they can take more intense direct stimulation.

Using a P-Spot Toy

When you’re ready for more than fingers, there are several toys made specifically for prostate stimulation for you to check out. Aneros makes a wonderful line of toys (my favorite is the Helix Syn) that are fantastic for solo or partnered play. Like any toy used for anal penetration, the Aneros toys have a large enough exterior piece to make sure there’s no chance of losing the toy inside you.