A Guide to Vibrators for Women Over 50

If diamonds are a girl’s best friend, then a well-chosen vibrator is the over-50’s best friend. Instrument of pleasure, aid to penetration, targeted focus on your erotic zones, sexual health tool. That’s a lot to expect out of a vibrator, right?

A well designed sex toy, like those from luxury toy manufacturer LELO, will fit the curves of our bodies, help you focus on the clitoris and give it wonderful sensations, or use in the vagina where it can stimulate nerves ending and bring needed blood flow to our delicate tissues.

Vibrators can be also used by partners during sex to give us added pleasure. And for those who don’t orgasm spontaneously during penetrative sex—that would be most of us—a sex toy provides additional stimulation.

Orgasms, or feelings of arousal give us a sense of satisfaction and well-being, whether you're having partnered or solo sex. Sexual activity stimulates hormones, specifically the production of oxytocin, the “feel good" hormone.

And, the process of arousal brings additional blood flow to genitals, facilitating the repair and nourishment of vaginal tissues, which helps to decrease or prevent vaginal atrophy. Additionally sexual activity is another way to exercise pelvic floor muscles, which strengthen the bladder muscles.

There’s nothing negative one can say about having a favorite sex toy or two at your disposal. Need a midday pick me up? I can’t think of anything more fun than a quick bit of self-pleasuring—grab that vibrator and let yourself be emerged in pleasure—it gives me a surge of creativity. Want to discover where your erogenous zones are? Pick up a vibrator and explore. Want a stronger orgasm during penetrative sex? Add a little vibrator to the clitoral area.

In choosing a sex toy, you can select one designed for insertion, like the g-spot stimulators from LELO, or clitoral vibrators which are made for external stimulation. There are large vibrators and tiny ones. There are lots of options depending on what you desire.

If you're interested in trying out a vibrator but aren't sure where to start, you've come to the right place!

Benefits of Using a Vibrator

The LELO SIila clitoral stimulator has a wide, easy to hold base.

Pleasure Without Penetration

For someone with a vulva, pleasure typically originates from the clitoris, not the vagina. A vibrator or sex toy allows you to feel pleasure, or to orgasm, without vaginal penetration—a plus for people who have issues with dryness or pain during intercourse. And a definite plus for people who aren’t in relationships. It’s also a useful tool for couples if erectile issues are present. More designers are realizing that penis-owners enjoy and benefit from vibrators too!

Making Pain-Free Penetration Possible

If penetrative sex has become painful, or you’re worried that it might be, you can experiment with a slender vibrator, to see what feels right. From there you can move to larger vibrators as desired if you want to stretch the vaginal opening a bit. Exploring penetration, via a vibrator, gives you the confidence to see how it feels, what tempo works for you and whether you want to try penetration at some future point. Note: This might be a conversation to have with a midlife gynecologist.

The Ina Wave features a "come hither" motion to stroke your g-spot

More Orgasmic Intercourse

For those who need extra attention to the clitoris in order to climax, a vibrator can be used during intercourse to provide the stimulation necessary for orgasm. There are small vibrators designed for the clitoris and other, smaller, less specialized vibrators that can be easily used as well.

Adaptive Toys

Vibrators are more sophisticated these days. There are cordless vibrators allowing for use anywhere, and toys with ergonomically designed shapes. Newer vibrators are lighter in weight and easier for arthritic hands to grasp and use.

Sex toy designers like LELO, are focusing on an older clientele and making toys that suit their needs.

The Discovery of New Erotic Zones

Using a vibrator, you can explore the clitoris and vulvar areas to find your erotic spots. If you’re not sure what turns you on, a vibrator allows you to explore and see what feels good. Do you like hard touch, or soft? Do you want a faster vibration or do you prefer slow? Do you like having your clitoris stroked? Or do you prefer sensation centered on some other area of your vulva? Knowing what kind of touch or sensation you prefer is vital information for you and a partner. We can’t really help our lovers satisfy us if we’re not sure ourselves what turns us on.