4 Awesome Reasons to Try Mutual Masturbation

We often think of masturbation as a solitary enterprise. A bottle of lube, a tab on YouPorn, a powerful vibrator—and you're on your way to at least a few minutes of pleasurable self-care. But masturbation is also wonderful when shared with a partner.

Mutual masturbation, as it's called, is a great overall option when it comes to pleasure. That's because the heat and passion of sex can sometimes lead to us getting carried away down different sexual paths. So, mutual masturbation gives you the chance to take a step back and put your and your partner's pleasure first (which can also lead to some pretty amazing orgasms!)

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In fact, there are a whole lot of reasons why you might want to add mutual masturbation to your regular sexual repertoire. Here are four of our faves:

Because you're each focused on your own pleasure, you won't get distracted by the other worries or thoughts that can pop up during sex. You get to take your satisfaction into your own hands and proceed exactly how you want to; and your partner will be doing the exact same thing: touching and feeling themselves in the perfect combination to send them over the edge.

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Sounds pretty hot, right? It is.

The result is a more intimate encounter where you and your partner can really pay attention to each other, learn about each other and play with pushing each other's buttons (or the buttons on sex toys at the very least!).2. It Helps You Get to Know Your Partner's Body

Every body is unique; and people have different erogenous zones. Taking the time to explore them can make a big difference in the satisfaction you both experience from sex.

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If you pay attention to your partner while they touch themselves, you'll start to notice places where their breath stops short, where they moan, where they shiver with pleasure. Pay attention to their speeds, movements and techniques. You'll learn a lot about what your partner likes and doesn't like simply by watching them.

Understanding your partner's body is like a healthy booster shot for your sex life that can help you fend off boredom for months (or years!) to come.3. It Helps You Show Your Partner What You Like

While mutual masturbation helps you get to know your partner's body, the opposite is also true: mutual masturbation is a great opportunity to help your partner learn what you like.

If you've been missing something during sex with your partner, mutual masturbation is great time to show your partner what sends you over the edge. Have your partner watch as you pleasure yourself. You might also want to describe your motions aloud and even talk about what you would do to your partner in return.

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If you're using sex toys, this is also a great opportunity to show your partner just where you like your toys to hit!4. It's a Great Way to Integrate Sex Toys

Speaking of sex toys, these delicious devices can provide a seriously sexy boost to your sex life—even if you're already having smoking-hot sex to begin with. But if you're a little apprehensive, mutual masturbation is a good moment to introduce something new.

Consider a sex toy that works for both of you, like a wand vibrator or a smaller, palm vibrator or body massager. Use the toys to seek out new erogenous zones on both of your bodies or apply the vibe to yourself while your partner watches and pleasures themselves with their hands.

You can also create fun games with sex toys—like only allowing one to be on at a time. If you hear your partner's toy turn on, you have to stop and turn yours off, and vice versa. See how long you can prolong your orgasms, teasing each other back and forth until one of you gives in!The Bottom Line

Mutual masturbation can be a powerful way to both expand your sexual repertoire and deepen your connection with your partner. Just remember to watch, listen and communicate through all of it!