8 Steps to Giving a Great Blow Job

Takeaway: Variety is the spice of life - and oral sex.

You will have a hard time finding a man who doesn't like some oral action. In fact, most men would say they could use a bit more action in that department. Maybe you are new to blow jobs, or maybe you're an old pro and need some new moves to spice things up. Either way, your guy will really, really appreicate your efforts. Want to be awesome at giving head? Here are eight simple steps to get you from the setup to a happy ending.

Step 1: Say It All Sexy

If you are going all the way with your fellatio, you're in control here, and you need to know how it's going to end. Are you going to let your partner come on your chest, in your mouth or somewhere else? Whatever you decide, try to communicate that to your partner in some way; you don't want to drop him just when he's getting into it. Either talk about it before things get started or once things have heated up. A little dirty talk can clear up any questions lingering in your partner's mind as to what you're planning - plus it can be really hot!

Step 2: Swallow or Spit?

Some men really do not care if you swallow or spit, others see swallowing as a huge turn-on. Find out how your partner feels, and pick a side. You don't want to make this decision at the last minute! If swallowing isn't something you've done before, it can help to keep in mind that the average amount of semen that comes out during an ejaculation is about one teaspoon - we aren't talking about a Big Gulp here! Also, each man's sperm has its own unique taste. If you don't like it, swallowing might just be off the table.

Step 3: Pick a Position

There are several optimal positions for giving a blow job. Whether standing, sitting or lying down, what matters most is that your tongue is able to stimulate the most sensitive area of the penis: the underside of the head.

Another option is for both partners to receive oral stimulation at the same time in the 69 position. The drawback here is that the tongue will be positioned on the wrong side of the penis for optimal arousal.

You can also put the man in more control by him being on top and thrusting into your mouth, even hanging your head off the side of the bed. If this has you feeling a bit clauthrophobic, you can place one or two hands around the shaft of the penis so only the tip is actually able to enter your mouth. This also provides the easiest position for bringing the penis deep into your mouth, a tactic called deepthroating.

Step 4: Start Slowly

Giving a great blow job - and I mean a really great blow job - is a wholistic process. Yes, men think they are all about the penis, but really, a little anticipation goes a long way toward moving the whole experience from mundane to mind blowing. Start slowly by massaging your partner's chest, then his thighs and then maybe work on the penis through his clothes. Jumping right into sucking his penis might be a bit of a shock - and starting down there from scratch can be a lot of work. So make that penis stand to attention before you really get down to business.

Step 5: Don't Ignore the Balls

When it comes to oral sex, stimulating a man's testicles is like delivering the first line of a great performance; it's not the part that gets a standing ovation, but it sure sets the stage for something great. Try these moves to leave him moaning for more:

• Grab the ball sac with your thumb and forefinger where it meets the shaft of the penis and lightly pull downward
• Lick in a "W" shape around the balls starting at the top, down one side, up the middle, back down the middle then up the other side
• Put one testicle at a time in your mouth and suck on it
• Place your hand around the balls and gently roll them around in your hand
• Place your straight forefinger on the vertical line down the middle of the ball sac (it's called the "raphe") and press down into his balls while sliding your finger downward off the scrotal sac.

Step 6: Get Your Hands in There

Don't be fooled by the "oral" part of oral sex; a good blowjob involves a lot of hand work as well. The average penis is 5-6 inches long and the average mouth is 2-3 inches deep. Your hands can make up for the difference and ensure the whole penis gets a workout. Some hand possibilities include:

• Place your thumb and forefinger together to form a ring around the base of the shaft of your partner's penis, working it up and down while your mouth works on the top of the penis
• Massage the perineum (the area between the anus and the back of the testicles) with your finger
• Use a finger to massage in or around his anus
• Pinch his nipples - but make sure things are really rolling for this one. If things are still heating up, it could feel more like a "purple nurple!"
• Put your fingers in his mouth for him to suck on
• If your mouth needs a break, sit back and use your hands to give him a quick hand job before bringing him back to your mouth
• Put your entire hand around his shaft and use a lot of wrist action as you bring your hand up and down the shaft in a slight twisting motion while your mouth and tongue work the top of the penis
• Stimulate his balls

Hand action works best when there is some lubrication involved. You can either use flavored lubrication or just get a little saliva into the mix. Keep in mind a lot of saliva will get produced as your mouth is working away. It can get messy, but your guy won't mind. Energy spent holding in spit for reasons of aesthetics is probably energy wasted. Sex is messy - and going all Martha Stewart about it could spoil the fun.

Step 7: Use Your Tongue

When it comes to giving great oral, the tongue is where true oral sex superstars separate themselves from the rest of the pack. Don't believe me? Try some of these techniques - and watch his reaction!

• Massage the frenulum (the tiny bump on the underside of the penis near the tip) with your tongue
• If your partner is uncircumcised, place your tongue inside his foreskin and circle the tip of his penis while you use your hand to hold the foreskin in place. For a circumcised man, simply circling the tip of the penis can have the same effect.
• Run the tip of your tongue along the seam on the back of the penis - this is a very sensitive spot
• Use the tip of your tongue on the meatus (the small slit on the tip of the penis where the semen comes out)
• Lick the shaft and tip of his penis like an ice cream cone with a flat tongue

Step 8: Change It Up

Doing one thing the entire time isn't going to keep him hard for long. Variety is the spice of life - and, it seems, oral sex. Vary the speed and rhythm of your licking, sucking and rubbing. Stimulate different areas, the tip of the penis, the shaft, the balls, whatever turns him on, just keep changing it up. You can try some of these other sexy tricks for variation:

• Lightly blow on his penis, the cool breeze will give him quite the shiver
• Give him some sexy eyes as you change position
• Tilt your head to the side and ever so lightly bite up and down the side of his shaft with your teeth
• When you mouth is around his penis and farther down on his shaft, suck your mouth in like a vacuum, sealing your lips around him then pull upwards, off of his penis
• Give him a "hummer" by making a humming noise when you have your mouth around his penis. Vary your tones a bit and the vibrations will give him a real thrill. I don't suggest humming an actual song, though - that could be distracting and, depending on what you choose, just plain weird.
• Pull the foreskin down on the shaft of the penis to make it tighter. This makes the penis more sensitive to your stimulations.
• Kisses and flicking of the tongue on the penis feel very good, and it will also give your mouth a break.
• Kiss the underside of the penis where the shaft meets the ball sac. This is a highly sensitive spot that is often ignored.

Don't be a afraid to play and explore. The more adventurous you get, the more he will be begging for mercy - or more! You are in complete control here, so take advantage and get your groove on!

Happy sucking!