5 Ways to Spice up Your Sex Life With Yourself

If you’ve ever been in a long-term relationship, you know how easy it can be to get stuck in rut in your sex life. Well, the same thing happens in the lifelong sexual relationship we have with ourselves!

So often, we condition ourselves to climax from one type of self-stimulation, and we stick to it religiously. While that can certainly be a reliable way to get the job done, adding new techniques to your repertoire can take you beyond the daily grind and bring your solo sex to new heights!

Here are five ways you can spice up the sex you’re having with yourself:

1. Explore Your Body Map

Masturbation, much like partnered sex, tends to be genitally focused, but guess what? Your entire body is covered with yummy erogenous zones. Self-love time is the perfect time to explore your body’s often over-looked sensitive spots.

Get in a comfy position and let your hands (or a toy) move slowly from the top of your head down to your toes, taking note of the spots that excite you most.

[If you need a toy for the job, check out the Kama Sutra Chari! Its vibrating and bendable rabbit ears are perfect for stimulating all different kinds of erogenous zones!]

If you aren’t sure where to start exploring, think of places where people generally get body piercings, like the ears, eyebrows, nostrils and lips. They tend to also be erogenous zones!

Some other particularly nerve-rich places on the body include the neck, nipples, navel, thighs and behind the knees. Don’t just stop at the more obvious spots! Touch places you never thought of as being sexy, such as your scalp, armpits and the skin along the spine.

When it’s time to get to your bits, spend time exploring parts that you might have accidentally ignored previously.

If you're a vulva-owner, the clitoris isn’t just the tiny external part you can see! Press up against the inner labia to stimulate the internal clitoris! Play around with the G-spot on the front-wall of the vagina, and then move slowly inward to find the anterior fornix. The perineum, or the space between the vagina and rectum, can also be an erogenous zone for many.

2. Build Your Toy Chest (or Diversify It!)

This may seem like the obvious one, but trying out a sex toy for the first time, or trying a new type of sex toy, can bring new types of sensations to your solo play. If you’re new to toys, find something that’s versatile so you can use it in multiple ways while you’re figuring out what you like.

The Kama Sutra Chari can be used for external and internal vaginal stimulation. Its ears are also bendable allowing you to stimulate both the clitoris and the vagina at the same time! It's compact and fully waterproof design means you can take this powerful, little toy on all kinds of fun adventures!

Pro Tips: Think outside the box and use the toy in ways that it hasn’t been marketed for. A vibrator will often be marketed as a clitoral vibe or a G-spot vibe, but try using it all over your body. Don’t forget the lube! It’s generally a good idea to have some water-based lube that can be used with all types of toys (and without them).

3. Make It Into a Full Body, Sensual Experience

Masturbation doesn’t have to only be about touch. Tantalize all of your senses to smell, taste, see, and hear your way to ecstatic pleasure.

Set a long playlist of music to set the mood you desire. Use candles, flowers, or fragrance sticks to set the mood with a pleasant scent. Bring some of your favorite treats to bed with you.

We recommend chocolate, strawberries, your favorite cheese, champagne, or wine. Some of these are considered aphrodisiacs and others are known to increase dopamine levels in your brain, which leads to increased desire and arousal.