8 New Year's Resolutions for the Best Sex Ever

By Lauren Katulka , December 28, 2012

Takeaway: Here's one New Year's resolution you'll really want to stick to.

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Every year we make all kinds of promises to ourselves, most of which we don't manage to keep - at least not for long. We’ll give up the cigarettes and fast food binges; we’re done biting our nails and skipping that morning workout; we'll call our mothers regularly, walk the dog every day and donate to charity.

Ha! Who are we kidding anyway? Most of those resolutions don’t last beyond January (and there are statistics to prove it). So this year, why not break with tradition and make a resolution you'll actually want to keep? These mantras are a surefire path to spicing things up between the sheets in 2013.

Now, how's that for a change you can really live with all year long?

I will be more spontaneous

2013 is the year to forget about your routine. While sticking to the script is comfortable, it isn’t exactly sexy. Once you give up living life to a plan, you’ll find that you’re more open to intimacy anytime, anywhere. We’re not just talking about intercourse either. When was the last time you kissed your partner passionately for no reason, or gave a back rub without being asked? Never underestimate the power of these unplanned sensual acts.

I will make time for sex

This one sounds like a bit of a no-brainer, but making time for sex is the best way to ensure you’ll enjoy more of it in 2013. When you’re juggling a career, raising children and just getting on with life, sex can easily fall to the bottom of the pile. But not only is getting it on an important way to stay connected to your partner - it's also a potent stress reliever! Make it a priority and the rest of life will seem just a little bit easier.

I will share my fantasies

Opening up about what gets you going can be tough, but you'll just have to get over it, because it’s the key to really great sex. How will your partner know what turns you on if you never open up? If the idea leaves you tongue-tied, start by writing your deepest desires down for your love to read later. Sharing such intimate thoughts could see you acting out your wildest fantasies, or learning more about your main squeeze’s own kinks! (Get some ideas by reading the latest erotica. Check out 5 Books That Will Make You Forget About "50 Shades of Grey" for inspiration.)

I will try new positions

We all have our favorites, but so many long term couples find themselves in a position rut. You’ll be surprised at how a new position can, well, turn your sex life around. You don’t need to be a contortionist to shake things up either. Browse our Beyond Missionary section for inspiration.

I will have an open mind

Next time your partner suggests trying something new in the bedroom - or outside it - consider it. It’s such a simple philosophy, but it can make for a much more satisfying sex life. We’re not suggesting you should say yes to everything; one person’s turn on can be another’s turn off. But fulfilling someone else’s desires can pay dividends for both partners. Your partner will be thrilled you’re willing to expand your horizons. Plus, you might discover you love something you’d never even thought of!

I won’t give in to excuses

We’ve all used them: I have a headache. I’m so tired. I forgot to shave my legs. These well-worn lines are easy to utter, but they’re killing your sex life. Sex can actually cure a headache. It’ll also ensure your draining day ends well. And do you think men really care about a little stubble? Ban the excuses in 2013 and enjoy more sex!

I will throw out old underwear

This one sounds a bit mundane, but the exercise is more than just spring cleaning. Ditching faded old cottons for something sexier will put you in a more sensual frame of mind. When you wear something hot your confidence will soar. Your partner will notice this before you even get undressed. (Take it a step further by waxing and decorating down below. Read more in Full Frontal: Waxing Your Vajayjay.)

I will make my bedroom sex-ready

A wise person once said that the bedroom is for two things: sleeping and sex. So why are most boudoirs too untidy to do either well? Clear out the clutter and focus on making your bedroom much more inviting. Choosing the right fabrics, colors, and decor can put you in a much sexier mood. And if you’re feeling really inspired, why not add some sex furniture?

It’s traditional to settle on a single New Year’s resolution, but these mantras sound so good we’re not sure we can choose just one! So here's to better sex in 2013! (Need more sexy suggestions? Read Beyond Plain Vanilla: 8 New Things to Learn in the Bedroom.)

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About Lauren Katulka

Lauren Katulka is a happily married freelance writer living on Australia's Central Coast. When she's not playing around with words she loves spending time in the kitchen, watching indie films and cuddling her Devon Rex cat, Gizmo.

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