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Your Kinky Bucket List: 10 Things to Try Tonight

by M. CHRISTIAN

Published: MAY 21, 2021 | Updated: SEPTEMBER 28, 2021 08:57:00

Trying to decide what kinky fun you should entertain tonight? The choices are nearly endless, so start here. Pick you fave or work your way down the list, we know you are in for a good time!

Now and again, even the most passionate of us need something new, hot, and most of all, kinky boost to keep our amorous passions steamy.

The trick is that with so many things out there to try, picking one or more can be pretty gosh-darned daunting: leaving us like a sexy deer caught in the high beams of kink from all those possibilities.

This is where we come in with our ten different possible kink-inspired things to try tonight. As an added bonus, we haves some suggestions from Lion’s Den that just might be the perfect thing to help out with which ever adventure you choose.

1. Spanking

Ah, that age-old classic and practically universal feature of every hot and bothered erotic fantasy: the meeting of hand or suitable implement to someone else’s backside for a nice firm (or gentle!) spanking. Conversely, you might enjoy having someone else smartly impact your own derriere.

Though using your palm and fingers to do the can be a delight, typically, that part of the human body will begin smarting long before a tush gets nice and warm.

Enter toys such as the Lust Bondage Paddle or the Scandal Round Double Paddle that will save your hand and get your bottom of choice all nice and toasty.

Lust Bondage Paddle

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2. Role-Play

One of the best ways to liven your sexual encounters is to try a hand at temporarily becoming someone else. Enter the world of role play, where you and your partner have the opportunity to combine the fun of make-believe with the erotic pleasures of taking charge of the action—or relinquishing control to someone else.

And a great aid in doing or is to pick up a sexy costume to help set the stage, such as the Bedside Nurse costume, or get spooky with your playtime with the Resting Witch Face Costume Set.

3. Temperature Play

Want a way to heat things up, or perhaps indulge in the hot yet cool sensations of that other side of the thermometer? Then look no further than the kinky world of temperature play.

And what better way to do that than by using the Fetish Drip Candles 3-Pack, for a sensually warm sensation on your lover’s back, chest, or ass? And for an opposite sensation, why not see if they like being caressed by a fridge-cooled Battle Rammer Phallic Glass Thruster?

Fetish Drip Candles

Read: Light It Up: Wax Play Basics

4. Bondage

Right along with spanking, restraining someone—or being restrained—is an all-time favorite kink activity.

But bondage is also something that everyone should do with a great deal of caution as it’s not without some serious risks. And a great way to scratch your bondage itch, and do it safely, is by using specially designed gear like the Beginners Bondage Kit or the Liberator Plush Seduction Kit.

Plush Seduction Set

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5. Flogging

Avast me hearties, why not get your pirate pleasuring going with a good flogging? Not only can it be a high seas fantasy adventure, but the sensations that are a step up from a regular spanking are a legendary favorite among kink novices in addition to old hands at this kind of play.

And as with bondage, always go for quality when it comes to selecting your floggers. There’s nothing worse than a shoddy one either falling apart or failing to redden the posterior you’re using it on. That’s why we suggest ones such as the Enchanted Flogger or the H-Style Leather Flogger.

H-Style Leather Flogger

6. Worship

Kink doesn’t always have to be whips and chains, or floggers and spankings. Body worship shows it can be all kinds of sexy fun to take things slow, sensual, and worshipful: spending all sorts of passionate time on appreciating everything about your partner’s body—or allowing your other half to get to know yours!

And products like Good Clean Love Sensual Essences Kit that help set the mood with scent or JO All-In-One Sensual Massage Glide are ideal for this form of amorously seductive play.

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7. Fetishism

Everyone has that special something that gets them turned on, from the musky darkness of black leather to the ethereal delights of delicate lace or anything else that erotically stimulates you, so why not bring your fetishes out to play by treating yourself to whatever excites you or your lover?

The sometimes taboo thrill of this kind of play is enhanced with pleasurable products made from the most fetishistic of materials, like the clearly sexy Soma Twisted Glass Dildo or the shimmering steel Mystim O(H!) - Thello Oval Dildo.

Soma Twisted Glass Dildo

8. Gender Play

A fantastic way to expand your erotic consciousness is by having fun walking in another gender’s … well, whatever their footwear might be.

As longtime fans of gender play happily attest, changing what you wear, how you act, and what kind of sexual feelings this can release can often be the key to an entirely new world of kinky adventures.

So slip on a French Maid Costume or if that doesn’t get your motor running, how about a Lace Bodysuit - Black and see what doors open for you!

Read: Rainbow Delights: New Ways You Can Use Gender in BDSM Play

9. Compression

Whether involving breasts or testicles and many other body parts, several people get aroused by a gentle squeeze. Emphasis on the gentle part as you definitely don’t want to apply too much pressure in compression play, and an all-but-guaranteed way to do this and be safe at the same time is to use equipment designed and built for it.

Examples of which can be found with the Beef Ball Stretcher for those with testicles and Nipple Play Non-Piercing Nipple Jewelry for anyone with a pair of these.

Beef Ball Stretcher

10. Food Play

“Yummy!” is what sexy food fans say about combining tasty morsels with relishing a person’s tasty morsels, and for excellent reasons, as there’s something remarkably erotic about having your kinky cake and eating—or nibbling, licking, or swallowing—it too!

But though old favorites like chocolate, whipped cream, and fresh strawberries can be delightful for food play, the cleanup afterward can be less so. That’s the reason products like the Lover's Candy Bra, and Sweet and Sexy Posing Pouch can be extra-tasty to try for your food play antics.

But Before You Get Kinky...

No matter what sexual adventures you and your partner decide to embark on, never forget that before anything happens, everyone involved should fully understand what’s going to happen and, armed with this knowledge, be able to give explicit consent for things to proceed.

Not only that, but everyone should also understand that whatever’s going on can be slowed down, suspended, or stopped entirely for any reason (or no reason)—without ever feeling there’d be any hard feels or negative repercussions for doing so.

Plus, things like bondage and many other aspects of kink play are risky, especially for those new to the world of BDSM. That’s why we heartily recommend staying physically and emotionally safe by learning as much as you can about kink.

So educate yourself, maintain unbiased communication with your partner at all times, and understand the importance of consent. Then get out there to try new things, sample new kinky activities, and most of all, have as much fun as you want!

PRESENTED BY

M. Christian

M.Christian is an author who has been published in science fiction, fantasy, horror, thrillers, and even nonfiction, but it is in erotica that M.Christian has become an acknowledged master, with stories in such anthologies as Best American Erotica, Best Gay Erotica, Best Lesbian Erotica, Best Bisexual Erotica, Best Fetish Erotica, and in fact too many anthologies, magazines, and sites to name. In addition to writing, M.Christian is a respected sex and BDSM educator, having taught classes on everything from polyamory to tit torture for venues such as the SF Citadel, Good Vibrations, COPE (in Columbus, Ohio), Beat Me In St. Louis, Winter Fire, Floating World, Sin In The City (Las Vegas), Dark Odyssey, and many others.

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